The singer Adele has returned to talk, although not in a bad way, as a result of her understanding of motherhood. A while ago, he surprised everyone by letting his son go dressed as a Disney princess because it was the costume he liked. Now the topic has been breastfeeding, and it happened during a concert he was giving in London, where he paused to pose for some pictures and a fan asked him about breastfeeding mothers.
The singer took advantage of this question to vent an opinion on the subject where it is appreciated that breastfeeding gave her more than a headache: “The pressure on us is fucking ridiculous, and all those people who pressure us can go to hell “Okay? Because it’s hard. Many of us can’t do it. Breastfeed if you can, but if not, don’t worry . The formula [was referring to the Aptamil brand] is just as good. I wanted to, I tried to give it the breast, but I could not, and I felt like: if I was in the jungle, my son would die because I have no milk. There are girls who had postpartum depression because of the comments of their midwives “. All this scam came from a campaign led days ago by chef Jamie Oliver, declaring that anyone who cares about the health of children should allow mothers to breastfeed wherever they want.
Adele’s words were harsh, but the singer did not abandon the humorous and carefree tome with which she had been talking for a while. Everyone applauded it, and many mothers are enthusiastic about the defense of formula milk , although it served to reopen the debate: breastfeeding or formula milk? Some media hint that the singer declared war on breastfeeding, but she does not, only to the pressure that mothers receive for being as they are expected to be.
WHO IS UNDER THE MOST PRESSURE?
Opinions are different, and investigating online and through the testimonies of different mothers, it seems that both options are criminalized. Mothers who give the bottle are described as selfish and lazy , it seems that they do not want to give their children the natural and nutritious milk of their body. Even in the hospital you can be pressured to breastfeed.
On the other hand, those who choose to breastfeed are frowned upon for exposing their breasts in public places , they find it difficult to do so due to reincorporation to work (if they have a job), and people around them tend to tell them over and over again that for what do not use formula milk, which is simpler and just as effective. What does seem is that after 6 months, what is well seen is that the bottle is given.
In each of the cases in which a mother feels repudiated by the option she has chosen, and it happens with both, there are women who feel pain in the nipples, do not rest well, do not have good schedules to combine work and breastfeeding , They are not comfortable breastfeeding, they do not find it more necessary than the bottle, they want their partner to feed them as well, they have not considered breastfeeding or they simply cannot (due to lack of milk, due to medical treatments , for being adoptive mothers, etc). There are also mothers who want to feel the touch of their baby, they do not feel tired or sore or it is worth it to go through it, they have the necessary time to dedicate it to breastfeeding, by ideology they want to take advantage of the natural resources of their body, they can’t afford to buy formula for their baby, they want to assert a woman’s right to breastfeed in public , they really enjoy having such contact with the baby, or they just haven’t considered using formula milk.
All these reasons are equally valid for opting for one type or another of breastfeeding, or even mixed breastfeeding , which combines both methods, if the pediatrician sees it as correct and the baby adapts well.
Not even in feminisms there is a unique position on the issue of breastfeeding. Feminist women defend formula milk because the pressures for the natural use of the woman’s body retract her to the role of mother and caregiver, and formula milk gives them the option of choosing which role to take. Others are in favor of natural breastfeeding, arguing that it can be exercised consciously and freely , and that it is necessary to promote work-life balance to facilitate baby feeding in employed mothers. Disagreements between these positions? None, since the key is in the ability to choose , and not in pressuring mothers to take one course or another.
IS IT A MATTER OF OPINIONS?
In these cases where the physical health of the baby and the emotional health of the mother are in question, scientific studies can give us the answer. That, or the advice of several gynecologists and gynecologists who tell us if there are actually differences between one type of breastfeeding or another.
From psychology we can also be advised on the influence of breastfeeding on attachment. The feelings that a woman experiences during breastfeeding are very strong and positive, she is able to feel united and connected to the baby. However, this discipline has taught us, over the years, that attachment, social and emotional development and the relationship between mothers and children are not something that is built in a few months of breastfeeding , but throughout the childhood, and that continues to stabilize later. Therefore, we should not worry about not being able to establish such a direct bond with the baby, because relationships have many components that build them.