We often come across a child who tends to get angry about everything, everyone and constantly. This is what is called being susceptible , and it is that susceptible children tend to be fussy and easily get angry over small things without importance, feel easily offended, for example with jokes.
These children interpret the gestures, looks or comments of other people as a direct attack on them, which causes children to react impulsively, disproportionately and inappropriately to these behaviors (anger, disconsolate crying, aggressiveness, etc.). If we realize that a child gets angry easily, we must help him to be able to control those tantrums and thus not generate a major problem that could lead to the child having problems in the long run in relating to other people.
Getting angry easily can lead to rejection by other children, making the child unable to establish friendships at school or in an after-school class. In extreme cases, being so susceptible can cause the child to end up without having friends , being socially isolated, which is why it is important that as parents we try to control this and put a solution to it.
This is why if you notice that your child gets angry very often and you are not very clear about the reason for this and how to avoid it, from PregDream we are going to explain the origin of these annoyances and how to put a solution to these emotions.
ORIGIN OF IRRITABILITY
There are many things that can make a child angry. For many parents this condition can make it difficult for them to raise their children, that they think it is exhausting and that without realizing it begins to affect themselves causing them to get angry with their children causing a fight of egos where the parents always they win with a “because I said so”.
It is important to know that these emotions and anger attacks are closely related to the child’s self-esteem , so if we notice that the child suffers from this problem, it is most likely that they do not have good self-esteem, caused by a negative self-concept of himself, numerous insecurities and the fear of being judged negatively.
Normally, children with these problems have been raised in an environment where their main father or family figures have been very demanding with them. They do not feel valued by their relatives, which makes them continually on the alert waiting for someone to make a critical assessment of them, which makes them always defensive, irritated and angry.
CHILDREN UNDER 3 YEARS OLD ALWAYS ANGRY
What happens during the first three years of our son’s life will shape his personality and the management of his emotions. From birth to three years, the frontal orbital region of the brain begins to develop , which is responsible for emotional functions, including stress.
Although it may seem incredible, a baby can also be stressed and the main reason for this is almost always due to the absence of an adult figure to take charge of the emotional state of the child. At this age, a child is totally dependent on their parents to know how to calm down, at this time in their life they do not have the necessary tools to be able to calm down by themselves, which leads to a lack of self-control that if an adult figure is not capable of Regular will transfer into stress and anger.
CHILDREN BETWEEN 6 AND 12 YEARS OLD ALWAYS ANGRY
When problems with tantrums continue at this age there may be a self – esteem problem involved in the child . Perhaps in his previous stage he did not know how to control his emotions well and although the parents were with him, somehow the child did not feel that way. But there is no need to worry as this can be changed.
You have to try to get the child to vent with you, to release his anger, since holding back will cause this to continue over time, let him know that you are interested in knowing what happens to him , understand him and put yourself in his situation, make agreements With him, but without exceeding limits, let him notice that you understand him but that there is a limit that he cannot cross.
HOW WE CAN HELP A CHILD NOT TO GET ANGRY
- Be affectionate with him, give him compliments, kisses, hugs, make him notice to your son that you love him as he is .
- Show your child that they have wonderful qualities , that you value and respect them
- Have expectations about your child appropriate to his age, you must accept him as he is, avoid getting angry with him and always say no, change the phrase to “later”, “later”, “later”.
- Avoid criticizing and judging your child constantly when he does something else, better use constructive and non-destructive criticism. Don’t inflict punishment that hurts, humiliates, or makes your child feel bad.
- Reinforce your children with rewards when they do things well.
If our child is constantly angry, we must reflect on whether we are too demanding with him, or if the punishments we give him are usually done in public in front of other children or people who have esteem for our children. This can make them feel humiliated and frustrated and more susceptible to always being angry. Discipline is totally necessary when educating your children but this discipline must be compensated with love and positive reinforcementThe moment they do something well, your children should notice that they have more benefits showing positive behavior than negative behavior, that the passive reaction of parents to the positive acts of their children can cause children not to know what the problem is. Appropriate behavior and that they close in on it, punishing or focusing only on negative behaviors causes a lot of frustration in children, so the most appropriate thing will be to have a balanced behavior and react to both the good things they do and the bad things.