The arrival of our baby into the world and the fact of being parents involves many changes in the mother and father as individuals, but also as a couple . Until now they were used to one way of life, to being only two and dedicating as much time as possible, but with the arrival of a child everything will change. Although there are ups and downs, things will oscillate between strengthening and weakening the couple, but over time one of the two things will prevail and cause the relationship to consolidate or finally break down.
At PregDream we tell you how the couple’s relationship can change after the baby’s arrival and when it will be strengthened or weakened.
FACTORS THAT WILL STRENGTHEN THE RELATIONSHIP
When the baby comes home it will be like starting all over again. The babies need constant attention and be close to the mother to be fed very often, especially in the early months. When the father is very actively involved in this process, the relationship is always strengthened . Taking turns getting up to see the baby when he cries, to bathe him, and to change his diapers, and doing so voluntarily, will make caring for the baby a joint project. Both should carry out these tasks , without only relapsing to the mother, and thus she also has more time to rest, which she will value very positively.
Today there is still the conception that the mother takes care of the baby and the father helps, but we have a conception more than 50-50 or 60-40, the case is that the mother does not see herself alone . You will see that your partner really loves you and is delighted with the arrival of the new member of the family.
United parents are those who spend time together and share the responsibilities that the arrival of the newborn implies. However, we must also continue to take care of the couple’s relationship, for them the baby’s parents must find moments in which they can enjoy intimacy , for example, going out to the movies or having dinner as they did in the old days, as long as they do not lose the spark of love and make the newborn do not separate them instead of uniting them.
FACTORS THAT WILL WEAKEN THE COUPLE’S RELATIONSHIP
If the man is very jealous and does not cooperate with the care of the newborn, the relationship will be very deteriorated. The woman will feel in the middle of both people whom she loves very much , but she will not be able to deny attention to the most needy, that is, her son, so the fights with the husband can be constant. She can also blame him for not helping her or making things easy for her, when the child is not only hers, but both.
The fact that the relatives of one or the other are always present in the home or directly related to the care of the child can also cause the relationship to weaken markedly and end in the worst possible way. But you have to understand that it is a temporary situation, and you can talk without fail to reach discussions. Therefore, being parents, if the man does not want the relationship to weaken, he will have to share responsibilities with the mother, make as much time as possible to be with her and the newborn. You should also understand that she will undergo some hormonal and psychological changes and that she may be more sensitive after giving birth, because not only her body has changed, but her entire life in general.
So, if both in the relationship want to stay together and happy for the mutual benefit and the newcomer to the family, the best thing is that they talk things out, divide the tasks and enjoy this new moment in their lives to the fullest, being parents. If they have made the decision to have a child, it is because they really wanted to create a family , that is, a strong bond between them in the couple. Although we are talking about men and women who have gone through childbirth, these tips are just as useful for parents of adopted children , or for homosexual couples . The baby must make being parents serve to unite them more than ever and not separate them, so that they are all happy throughout life.