Finding out that your son or daughter is being bullied at school by their peers can be a horrible nightmare for any parent. The feeling of helplessness every morning when leaving the child at school makes many parents decide that their children simply stop going to school even if the authorities throw themselves at them. It is unfair to see how they are alarmed because a child does not go to school instead of understanding that they are not going out of fear and that solutions must be found to avoid tragic endings.
Children who dare to talk about the teasing, the behavior that others have with them at school … it is not always easy since they can feel ashamed and what is worse, sometimes they feel that it is their fault. It may happen that by the time parents realize what is happening, the situation is already out of control . On many occasions, parents, faced with such a serious situation, decide to change their child’s school in search of a better environment that makes him feel safer.
THE POLICIES OF SCHOOL SYSTEMS
Most school systems have their own policies regarding how to deal with bullying and how to approach the bullied child and the bully. There are schools that have ‘zero tolerance’ policies and if they identify the aggressors they are suspended or sent to alternative schools.
Others let the teacher regulate the situation if it is their students who are bullied or bullied . But due to the terrible increase in bullying cases in schools, it is clear that all these measures are not always effective in schools.
THE PARENTAL STRUGGLE
Many parents fight every day to protect their children from the torment or humiliation they suffer in schools. Instead of sharing joys, parents are forced to contact the administration, talk to school boards, and sometimes even the local police to stop the constant attack their children are suffering on a daily basis.
Sometimes parents can lose their cool and try to deal with their children’s bullies, but violence for violence is not the best option because children are taught that violence is okay. You try to stop a behavior with an equal, so the situation could only get worse.
When parents have a child bullied by their peers, they may feel with their hands tied because of the bullying. State laws and school policies appear to protect bullies more than victims. When parents call or go to schools to complain about the protection of their children, the schools often say that ‘it is children’s things’ and even try to make them feel bad themselves … when they should feel bad for not doing it enough to protect your students. When this happens, parents may feel that all their options have been exhausted and that the best thing they can do is change their children to schools so that they no longer have to put up with their bullies.
IS CHANGING SCHOOLS A GOOD REMEDY AGAINST BULLYING?
The good remedy against bullying would be for society to be aware of the serious problem. That families work from when children are young to educate them from empathy , respect and tolerance and that schools have an effective protocol of action so that in cases of bullying. It would also be necessary for bullies to have compulsory psychological therapy with professionals so that they could work on emotions and their internal conflicts.
But this reality is too idyllic, and many parents are forced to decide whether their children should continue to suffer or if it is better to change schools. Changing schools is a good remedy against bullying, because it is a way for the child to get out of the toxic environment and to start from scratch. But before starting a new school it will be necessary to do therapy to be able to work on social skills again and to be able to interact appropriately with the peer group.
But changing schools is not always so easy. Normally the laws do not allow a change of school so easily and if the parents want to do it they will have to look for a concerted or private school with the expense that this supposes.
Even if you manage to pick a good school and change it, there is no guarantee that the problems are still at the new school. For example, if the children in the new school know that you changed because you were bullied and that you could not bear the situation any longer, they may see you as an easy victim and that the torment will continue . Therefore, it is better that if a change of school is made, it is justified by a change of address, a change of parents’ job, educational values, etc. Although the management team can be up to date as long as they guarantee the confidentiality of everything.
The main goal of parents is to protect their children from harm. When a child has been humiliated and tormented for a long time by his classmates, the emotional damage is quite great, something that can also interfere with his academic results. When parents decide to change a child from school it is because they have exhausted all existing resources, it should always be the last option. But if there are no more resources to explore, then the change of school may be something to consider , as long as it is helped by a professional psychologist who helps the child to be able to manage their emotions.
If the change of school is not possible, the parents of the victim of bullying should continue to fight for the good of their child, because they feel safe and so that the school administration does everything possible so that each and every one of your students are safe and secure on school grounds. If all efforts are ineffective against bullying or the school is unwilling or unwilling to take responsibility, then the best option is to take legal action through an attorney.