Children who understand their emotions and control their actions are mentally stronger. You do not have to repress emotions because they are necessary, what is important is to understand emotions to know how to act in case of feeling uncomfortable emotions. You have to control your emotions instead of them controlling you.
Children who know how to regulate their feelings can control their behavior and keep negative thoughts at bay. However, children are not born with an understanding of their emotions and do not know how to express their feelings in a socially appropriate way.
A child who does not know how to control his anger may have aggressive behavior … in the same way, a child who does not know what to do when he feels sad may spend hours crying uncontrollably. When children don’t understand their emotions, they can also avoid anything that makes them feel bad. For example, a child who is really shy in social situations may avoid joining a new activity because he lacks confidence in his ability to tolerate the discomfort associated with trying new things.
It is essential to teach children to regulate their emotions so that they learn to reduce behavior problems. A child who understands his emotions will also be better prepared to deal with uncomfortable situations and is more likely to know how to behave in certain situations. With training and practice, children can learn that they can cope with their feelings in a healthy way
THEY ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR EMOTIONS
While it is healthy for children to experience a wide variety of emotions, it is also important that they recognize them and know that they have control over their feelings. A child who has a difficult day at school may choose to do activities in the afternoon that provide a better mood.
A girl who has become angry with her brother must find ways to calm herself and not use aggression . Feeling angry about something does not give you the right to misbehave with other people.
It is necessary that both parents show their children what is the best way to behave and understand what is and what is not acceptable at all times. If your child hits his brother because he ‘made him angry’, you should tell him that he has become angry alone, because each one has responsibility for their own feelings and also, for their behavior. Although his brother may have influenced his behavior, he is not really to blame for anything.
Similarly, children need to learn that just as they are responsible for their own emotions, they have no power or control over the emotions of others. If your child makes a decision and someone else is angry about it, it is not their problem, everything is fine. It is necessary for children to learn during their lives, others will try to influence you to make decisions wrong, and should resist the peer pressure and make the healthiest and correct decisions at that time.
YOU ACCEPT NEGATIVE EMOTIONS BECAUSE THEY ARE NECESSARY
Uncomfortable emotions always have a purpose and it is necessary to feel them in order to realize what they want to tell us. Feeling fear of a wolf is normal, but with the pace of life we lead, feeling fear, anxiety or stress is becoming too common. For example, if your child is afraid to go to a painting group, he will not know the other classmates nor will he know what his creative capacity is . Facing fears when it is safe to do so will help children know that you are capable of more than you really think.
Sometimes children get so used to avoiding discomfort that they begin to lose self-confidence. They think, “I could never do that, it would be too horrible.” As a result, many opportunities in life are missed. They need to learn that the emotions they feel as ‘negative’ are also necessary.