With the technological revolution , we live through the mobile phone. We use them for everything. Because smartphones are no longer just for making calls and sending messages; Through them we can search for information, work, be in contact with our children, watch movies, listen to music, and practically anything we propose. They are essential tools in our life . But, like any tool or instrument, it can also have negative consequences. In the case of families, the mobile phone can end up causing a disconnection between all the members, an incredible isolation. If everyone uses the mobile every time they have a moment, regardless of whether they are with their children or not, the mobile ends up being more of an obstacle than something positive.
Believe it or not, there is something you should know as a parent: your children hate your mobile phone . Maybe the same thing happens to you with theirs, depending on how old they are, but when they are very young and don’t use a smartphone, they hate yours with all their might . Because every minute of attention you pay to the phone is attention that you steal from them.
This does not necessarily mean that you have to be one hundred percent of your time paying attention solely and exclusively to your children. But it does imply that when you are with them, you must do it one hundred percent . If you are eating and, while you are talking to them, you start looking at your mobile, what you are causing is that they feel that you are not paying them the necessary attention. Don’t worry, because with a few basic rules this situation can be solved. From PregDream we are going to give you some tips that could help you in your odyssey against the mobile phone.
1. NO SMARTPHONES DURING MEALS
Breakfasts, lunches, snacks, dinners … Regardless of the meal you make as a family, it is best to ban all kinds of electronic instruments during that time. But not only for your children, but also for you. That is, it is useless to tell them that there is no WhatsApp on the table if you are later looking at Facebook, or anything like that . These standards must be met by all members of the family to be truly taken into account.
2. IN THE PARK, OR TAKING A WALK, NO PHONE
It would also be positive if you made your children see that when they are taking a walk, or simply outdoors, mobile phones should be restricted to a discreet background . They are only used if you have to answer an urgent call, or if you want to take a photo (take it, be careful, not to share it on social networks). In this way, they will see that there are moments that belong to the family and that there are no obstacles that prevent it.
3. TAKE CERTAIN ROUTINES AT HOME
It is logical that, in a free time, you want to take your mobile, either to read an article, to visit your social networks or to watch a video. But it would be nice if these free times had a kind of routine . For example: right after eating, while the children are resting, or watching a movie, or reading a book, or doing homework (as long as they don’t need our help), it is your moment to disconnect.
Being a parent is a full-time job , yes, but your children also have to understand that they need to gain independence little by little, just like you need to regain it. Otherwise, it will be counterproductive, because without space for you it is impossible that you can be completely happy. These little moments, which don’t have to last for hours, can be a start.
4. AT NINE AT NIGHT, TELEPHONES OUT
As dinner time approaches, it is the perfect time to unplug the phones and relax . It would also be positive if the televisions were disconnected, since all this type of screen ends up damaging, since it does not allow the little ones to relax and get ready to fall asleep. However, as the latter is not always possible, let’s at least try to disconnect all mobile phones.
This small disconnection will allow the children to notice more tranquility at home, and you will also notice it. If they go to bed before you, you will have time later to get on your phone, don’t worry.
5. TIME FOR EVERYONE
Remember that all these guidelines are looking to get you to spend more time together, more full time, that is, without obstacles. But just as you need time with them, and they with you, you also have to find time for yourself, apart or together, and beyond mobile phones. Like a vacation without technology, which can be spent at home, or an afternoon of board games with the family; or even time to read each one the book that you want . And to enjoy!