Are children overconfident in their own abilities?
If children are overconfident in their own abilities, is that good or bad for them? Where is the in-between point?
Culture can influence trusted perceptions of how adults view children. Criticisms from young people often suggest that today’s children are often the recipients of so-called “participation trophies.” In other words, children are praised for mere participation, not for the actual content of their performance.
Such praise is designed to build confidence and self-esteem. This approach leads to a sense of entitlement or even unearned trust. Children moving into adulthood believing that simply showing up is enough to be successful makes it harder to accept when this success is not so easy to achieve in life. Something that can lead to a low tolerance for frustration. ?
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FIXED MINDSET AND GROWTH MINDSET
Instead, praising efforts plays a critical role in building what’s known as a growth mindset. A mindset is an underlying belief about intelligence and learning. People with a fixed mindset tend to believe that intelligence is an innate trait …
Those with a growth mindset believe that they can become smarter through their own efforts.??People with a fixed mindset tend to give in to challenges because they believe they simply lack the innate traits and skills necessary for success. Growth-minded people, on the other hand, have the confidence and understanding that they can overcome the challenge through study, practice, and effort.
You need to know how to build confidence and a growth mindset. To do this it is convenient in lodge of effort rather than results, in fact, this is the key. Do this to help young children realize that their efforts and actions determine the results. This does not mean having to praise children for doing nothing … ?? So why do older generations perceive younger people as overconfident? Are children too trusting for their own good ???
This perception is most likely due to changes in cultural norms and expectations. Older generations were encouraged to be calm, obedient, and out of the way of “grown-ups.” This was described as the ideal when it came to children. Culture has changed, as has our understanding of child development and children’s needs. So it may not be that today’s kids are overconfident, they are simply allowed a level of self-expression that older generations may not have enjoyed as children.
BUILDING AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE
People often tend to deal with the opposite problem: having too little confidence. It is necessary to work on children so that they have healthy self-confidence. They must have a strong sense of self and sufficient security to know what they want in life and find a way to achieve it, no matter how small the goals. Confidence is good as long as it is healthy, otherwise it can harm health and relationships with others.
The people who think they are the best, the smartest, or the most qualified are, after all, the worst, the most misinformed, and the least qualified. In other cases, excessive self-confidence means ignoring the needs of others in favor of your own interests. This can lead to major problems in all types of relationships, including romantic associations, friendships, and family ties. After all, who wants to spend time with someone who thinks they are better than everyone else and who only thinks about themselves? So that this does not happen to your children:
- Focus on the effort and not the result
- Be a good example
- Learn new things every day
- Listen with empathy to what others have to say, if you do, your children will too
- Use assertiveness to show your wishes and feelings and teach your children to do so
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.