As teens mature, they assert their independence , explore activities that interest them, build relationships with their peers, and make decisions about their future. While you want to give your child some independence, you should also set limits. Even if they protest, teens will appreciate the limits, because it will make them feel safe and well cared for by their parents. By understanding the consequences of no boundaries, you will quickly realize the importance of setting clear boundaries within your home.
If you have never been a fan of setting limits for your children thinking that it was better for their development and education, you should know that you were not doing them any favors. Teenage boys and girls need rules and limits to know what is expected of them at any given moment. Without these norms or limits they will grow without knowing what is correct or what is not desirable, they will think that they have all the rights in the world and that others have none of them …
Without a doubt, raising teenagers without rules is more dangerous than you can imagine. Next we are going to explain to you what are the most common consequences of raising teenage children without limits … What you think is a good thing now, will give you a strong emotional blow in not long.
Unsupervised activities for teens can lead to risky behaviors. Limits prevent your children from spending time with bad influences and finding themselves in negative situations. Boundaries protect teens from unsafe situations.
Your child must understand your expectations and he must ensure that he meets those expectations. Without limits, peer pressure, or simply too much unsupervised time could lead your child to risky behavior without considering the repercussions of that behavior.
Boundaries teach respect , respect for the adolescent, and respect for others. Teenagers who follow boundaries respect their parents’ guidance and respect themselves enough to avoid unpleasant behavior.
Adolescents who lack boundaries can develop a general attitude of disrespect for themselves, their family, and their friends . A child without limits could disrespect his body by using drugs, disrespect his friends by treating them badly, or disrespect his family by skipping family functions to spend time alone with friends.
Boundless teens are also likely to get into unhealthy relationships. By not understanding limits, teens can spend too much time with friends or other unimportant people.
Every relationship needs breaks so teens can recharge, focus on their family, and appreciate their friendships. When your boundless teenager spends too much time with his friends or partner, he does not appreciate the other people in his life and instead runs the risk of unnecessary conflict with them. Also, spending too much time with friends results in less time with family , which can damage family relationships.
Boundaries provide a sense of security from the early years through adolescence. Children thrive when their parents set clear limits . Limitless teens often feel less secure in their lives because their options are less secure and less clear when they have no limits to follow. In addition, limitless adolescents also have less sense of belonging, that is, where they belong, when limits are not established and they do not know what is expected of them. The feeling of belonging in the family is essential for a good integral development of the adolescent boy or girl.