Nowadays, more and more women have babies in their 40s, since life, the economy or a professional career has not allowed them to be before. At age 40, the downsides to having a baby are long and short term. In the short term, physical problems occur . In the long term, social problems appear. These problems are not insurmountable, but only you can determine if you are willing to face them, no matter how sweet the payoff is.
It is more difficult to get pregnant when you are 40 years old. Half of women over 40 have fertility problems. The risks of pregnancy increase significantly at this age.
For example, a 40-year-old’s risk of a Down syndrome baby is 1 in 100, compared to a 30-year-old’s risk of 1 in 1,000. Miscarriages also increase with age. At age 40, there is a 35% risk of losing the pregnancy. Pregnant women in their 40s are also more likely to have complications such as gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, and stillbirth.
While it is true that many women hope to have children , the average age of a new mother today exceeds 25 years. Whether it’s the first child or not, the reality of having a baby in your 40s is that you will be older than most mothers in your child’s world.
You will likely be the oldest parent volunteering in class, the oldest parent among your children’s friends, and you will be the age of a grandmother when your child graduates from high school. You should reflect on how this will make you feel and if you are ready to deal with it.
Being an older mother also has long-term disadvantages. Think that you will be 70 when your child is only 30 years old. You will not be around your child for as long as he or she needs you. Also, you may not be able to see your grandchildren and you certainly will not spend many years with them … You will have to prepare your child early for the possibility of your death , as your risk of death increases with age.
Finally, think for a moment how having a baby in your 40s will affect you personally for years to come. The older you get, the more difficult it will be to do something that is physically and emotionally demanding. Do you really want to crawl on the floor with a little boy in his 40s? Can your knees do it? Do you want the stress of an argumentative teenager in their 50s and 60s? Will your heart be strong enough? Will you have the energy and strength to endure the continuous work and worry of raising a child? If the answer to all of the above questions is yes, then stick with it, get in good shape, and get ready for the ride of a lifetime …
If, on the other hand, you do not like everything mentioned above or you think that being a mother is not your thing and you do it only because it is “socially accepted” … then it is better that you think twice. Being a mother or father is not a game, nor is it a decision you should make lightly. Rather the complete opposite. Thinking about having a baby and being a mother (which is something that will last you a lifetime), is a decision that you will have to make thinking about everything very well, both the pros and cons.
Although if after valuing everything, you think that the time has really come to be a mother , then it is really that your heart and your body is ready to go through all that it entails and enjoy your children for as long as life allows you.