Do not force your 10-month-old baby to be with someone he does not want
What if your 10-month-old doesn’t want to be with other people? That you must not force him! Find out why below.
Watch out! This does not mean that the bond between parents and children or with other relatives should not be strengthened, but it is normal for babies to spend time being ‘mommy’ and wanting to spend more time with their mother. This is not bad at all, and it will not negatively affect your future relationship with your father or other people, or your bond. On the other hand, if you force him to be with his father when your baby needs you, it is likely that then, the affective bond will suffer.
If your partner spends the whole day outside, takes long trips or is not usually with your baby during the day, it is likely that the little one does not want to spend a lot of time with him, especially if he is between 8 and 10 months old, which is the A time when babies start to miss and just want to be with the daily attachment and reference figure.
To ease this transition, you need to understand the stage of development your baby is in. If you have a 10-month-old baby, he may begin to communicate easily with his cries, with whom he wants to be or with whom he does not want.
Your baby can respond to his name, pointing and (this is really important) looking at you like a hawk when you walk away from his side. The children ten months begin to imitate their parents; If you read a sad story in the newspaper and cry, your baby may start crying. He’s paying close attention to your speech, how you use your mouth, and so much more.
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WHO DOES YOUR BABY WANT TO BE WITH?
It is normal that your baby only wants to be with mom or dad, because as they grow they develop an attachment to the mother and father. It is the emotional bond that will bind you together forever. Our culture often pathologizes this developmental norm by calling children things like “mama’s boy” or ” spoiled, ” but they couldn’t be more inaccurate, especially when it comes to a 10-month-old.
Babies develop all of their senses to find the security they need to grow up happy. Although a baby is not physically with his father or mother, he has grown up observing his face, his gestures and everything since he was born. You have heard the sound of your voice every day and will recognize it as soon as your mother or father walks through the door.
When a baby is in the arms of someone they do not know, they will feel insecure and want to be in the arms of their parents as soon as possible. This is understandable , because for more than nine months, your baby listened to your voice and that of his father.
IF YOU FORCE HIM, HE WILL REJECT YOU
If you force your baby to be with other people against his will, you will only make him feel rejection towards those people. So what can you do about it? You can follow the following tips.
-Have a role as an intermediary. Encourage your baby to be with other people by being around you.
-Don’t force your baby to be with other people if he doesn’t want to. Take him with affection and be close to the other person with your baby in your arms, so little by little he will begin to accept the presence of the other person and trust him.
-Remember that your main attachment is you, and if you love and trust that person, your baby can too. But if you force him, he will resist bonding.
-This can take time, do not force the situation, respect the time it takes to accept the other person.
With these tips, little by little your 10-month-old baby will be able to accept other people, show trust in others and your baby little by little, will too.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.