From behind a screen it is very easy to try to embarrass other mothers, in addition to being a coward, whoever does it feels they have a legitimate right to do so. Although no one has the right to criticize the motherhood of a woman who tries to raise her children in the best possible way. A mother who loves her children above all else should receive support from other mothers rather than harsh criticism.
Mothers are the largest community in the world and for that alone, we should support and respect each other. Motherhood is difficult and we should behave like a huge tribe, because it really is who we are. All mothers who have social networks in public mode (and even in private) may be exposed to this risk of criticism from other users of the social network. Even if you try to be careful not to post anything controversial. On the Internet, nothing guarantees that there will not be someone lurking to attack you when you least expect it.
After all, it only takes one misspelled or misinterpreted post on Facebook , Twitter, or Instagram to wreak havoc on your life. What’s more, you don’t even have to do anything wrong to be embarrassed. Some online mother stalkers will even take photos or videos without your knowledge and post them … If you ever find yourself in such an embarrassing situation, there are a few things you should do.
10 THINGS TO DO IN THE FACE OF MATERNITY STALKERS ONLINE
- Do not reply. If you answer, it’s like putting gasoline on a fire. Even if they say rude things about you, there will be nothing that bothers them more than indifference. Ignore what they tell you, even if it costs you to do so, do not respond. Let that just go away.
- Delete the post. If they have tried to embarrass you for something you posted, delete it and do not encourage them to follow the chain of swearing.
- Don’t get obsessed with the subject. Keeping thinking about what others say about you is not healthy. It robs you of your time and energy. Plus, it only makes you feel worse. Focusing on other things is healthier for you. Have coffee with a friend or watch a movie to get your mind absorbed in other topics.
- Allow yourself to feel different emotions. It is normal for you to experience many different emotions from outrageous humiliation to sadness, anger or regret. It is important that you allow yourself to feel all of this but do not anchor yourself here. Watch your thoughts especially if they exaggerate the situation. Do not accept the idea that your life is ruined because there is life after all that, do not give that person the power of your emotions … because they do not have it!
- Don’t read what they write. It is not worth it … although it is normal that you want to know what others are saying, it is not a good idea to find out, especially if you have a clear conscience as a mother. It’s better to stay away from social media, so don’t give them the satisfaction of reading their negative words or comments … don’t give them that attention!
- If necessary, close your social accounts. In extreme cases of online stalkers, you can close your social media accounts and open others (when you feel ready) in case you want to make it so that other people don’t know you have, with slightly different names.
- Don’t fall for their game. Remember that any communication with bullies will only increase everything because it rewards their behavior and they will continue their cycle of bullying. People will lose interest in continuing to embarrass you if you don’t respond and ignore their hurtful words.
- Stay positive. You may feel somewhat devastated by the situation, but remember that this experience will not last forever. The consequences are difficult to deal with, but you can overcome it. Focus on what is important in your life: your family and your children. Don’t let hurtful and meaningless words from other people (who you may not even know and who are also cowards) define you.
- Do not fall into the victim thought. The key to recovering from this situation is not letting what happens define you as a person. Instead, practice gratitude and don’t feel sorry for yourself. Identify 3 things each day that you can be thankful for and you will feel much better.
- Take back control of your life. If you feel helpless it is common but do not transfer these feelings to other parts of your life. Remember that you cannot control what others say about you, but you can control how you react to it. Put your energy into being a good mother and a person of character in your day to day.