When your parents sign the divorce, both your life and theirs change completely. Your mother or father may find a new partner and decide to have another family with your stepfather and stepmother . If your father is in that situation, it may not be easy for you to accept that from that moment on you are no longer his only family. You will have a new stepmother and, surely, new half-siblings in her house. At PregDream we tell you how to face and overcome that your father has another family .
HAVING TWO FAMILIES
You must be aware that, even if your father has a new family with his new wife and children, he will never stop thinking about the first family and children he had and of which you are a part. He will simply have to spread his time more between you and your half siblings . As he is no longer married to your mother, you may have to see him at his house with his new family, which may be uncomfortable at first, but if you do your part, surely you will also fit into your father’s family .
HAVING TWO FAMILIES DOESN’T NECESSARILY HAVE TO BE NEGATIVE
In the event that you meet them and do not get along, you should be cordial with all of them since that is what will keep you from losing contact with your father. Think that if you make him choose between you and your new siblings, or his new family, you will create a very complicated situation for everyone. Therefore, make your father’s new family your new family and try to get along as best as possible with your half-siblings and your stepmother as long as you can all live together happily.
THE NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER
It is normal for you to feel upset with your father , especially after the divorce. If your father already had the new family before he left home that will make you feel angry and cheated. Probably at first you don’t feel like meeting your stepmother and your new siblings and you prefer to spend as much time as possible with your mother and your maternal family. However, as time passes you will see that you should not be angry with your father.
Romantic relationships are very difficult and many end in divorce . The most likely thing is that your father has fallen in love with your stepmother and they have wished to have a new family together. However, that does not mean that your father will forget about you or your mother’s family after the divorce, who were also his family in their day. Therefore, as soon as you can understand that your father has engaged to another woman who is not your mother, you can also understand that your mother may meet a new love one day and he will be your stepfather. It is best to tell your father how you feel, share your fears with him, and remind him how much you love him.
TO SHARE IS TO LIVE
If your father knows that you are not going to replace him with your stepfather and that you do not want to lose him, he will make you aware that he wants to share his whole life with you, even though he now has two families. The children will all be the same for him , regardless of who your mother is. The best gift you can give your father is to get along with his new family, or at least try to be cordial with them. Over time you will learn to live with this new situation and it will be very easy for you to face and overcome that your father has decided to start a new family with your stepmother.
Think that in the future you could also go through the same situation and it would make you very happy if your son or daughter were able to understand your decision and love their half-siblings and stepmother in the same way that they love you, but never without forget your real mother and your new stepfather .