It is nothing new for a father or mother of an adolescent boy or girl that sometimes good communication is conspicuous by its absence. There will be days that are more receptive and affectionate and others that seem like a different person and do not even want you to get close to them. Although it is true that this ambivalent behavior can cause confusion in parents, it is actually quite common in adolescents.
To avoid this communication gap in adolescents and their parents, it will be necessary to work on good communication from mutual affection and respect. Adolescents are in a time full of changes, they are in a transition to adult life and for them, it is not easy to endure so many changes in such a short time. Both hormonal and physical changes also confuse them and make them too insecure .
COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR TEENAGER
Even if they deny you day and yes and day to proclaim their independence and manifest their identity, the reality is that your adolescent child needs you more than ever and needs your guidance at all times. You may find that your teen can’t stop talking to his friends, but when you ask him about his day, he has absolutely nothing to say to you.
Communicating with your teenager can be an uphill struggle all the time, and you can even feel exhausted most of the time, because you try to get close to him and only find yourself with a hard concrete wall. The important thing is that you don’t give up and keep trying every day. Although for your child to give in to your approach in good manners, you will need to know the most effective ways to talk to a teenager. Only in this way can you improve communication between you.
Healthy communication is the heart of any good relationship. It’s important to talk about everything from peer pressure to your goals for the future. When your teen knows that he can talk to you and anything, the more likely he is to seek your guidance.
Talk during an activity
If you ask your child to talk to you face-to-face about serious issues, they may become outcast or feel attacked. You may find that your teen is more willing to talk when you are doing an activity with him, such as when you are playing basketball or riding in the car.
Do not insist if you do not want
Gaining independence is essential for your teenager, so don’t insist that he tell you everything you want to know. Help him to know that there are other adults who love him and that he can also trust them to tell him what he needs whenever he wants. For example, it could be the other parent, an aunt or uncle, grandparents, a trusted teacher, a family friend, etc. Anyone who makes you feel comfortable in a conversation.
Solve problems together
Rather than telling your teen over and over again how best to do things, invite her to do it with you so she learns how to do better next time. If you have a specific problem, you can brainstorm and then choose the best possible solution. If that idea fails, he will always have more strategies on the list that you have brainstormed to try another attempt to solve the problem that concerns him.
Live in your teenager’s world
You will be able to communicate better through text messages or social networks when you are not in the same house. So you can enter his world and speak in a way that is more comfortable for him to open up and communicate with you without pressure and with total freedom. Even at home, if he has a hard time expressing something to yourself, you can tell him to tell you through handwritten text.