Have a second child, yes or no?
Having a second child can be a decision that generates doubts, is it a good option or is it better to wait?
How many children are you going to have? This is one of the most frequent questions that a couple is often asked by family or friends. This is something very intimate that should only concern the couple themselves.
The fact is that when one ends up being father and mother , the following question arises: And when will the second be? In most cases, going for the second child tends to generate many more doubts than when having the first baby. There are many factors that must be analyzed before taking the next step and choosing what your heart tells you or what your head tells you.
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YOUR HEAD TELLS YOU NO
If having a child is something serious enough that you should never take lightly, in the case of going for the second you have to think about it a lot more . Having a second child can have its good things and its bad things. The experience and fear of the new you have already overcome by having already been a mother. However, this experience has to help you to know if you really want to be a mother again or it is something that does not fit into your plans. You have to be realistic and having a second child would represent a series of changes in the family that it is good to weigh before taking such an important step.
There are a number of factors to take into account, such as time or money, since it is not the same as having only one child than having two. That is why it would be necessary to put emotions aside and think coldly with the couple what would be best for the family. You cannot get carried away by what your parents or your closest environment think and weigh the pros and cons in a reasoned way of having another child again.
YOUR HEART SAYS YES
Although your head may tell you no, your heart and emotions can push you to take the step of having another child again. Memories of your first child can make you want to go through the same thing again and want to be a mother again. Sometimes the thought that your child may have a little brother or sister to share things with makes you awaken that beautiful feeling of being a mother again. There are other times when emotions and feelings are much stronger and can counteract what the head thinks. Many mothers forget what their own head tells them and fully opt for what their own heart sends them.
THE DOUBT OF HAVING ANOTHER CHILD
We have seen the two opposites that usually occur when wondering whether or not to have a new child. On the one hand, there is what the head itself says that having another child involves a greater number of unnecessary problems that are not worth suffering. However, there is the other pole, which is what the heart and feelings say. Having a second child would be a true gift to the family in every way. A baby always brings joy and happiness and in this way your child could have a playmate with whom to share different moments and experiences.
In any case, having a second child is a very personal decision for the couple who have to think a lot before taking the important step. Remember that opinions are always welcome but it is something important that you have to decide only between two.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.