How to carry out positive parenting
Choosing a parenting style will help us better guide our way of educating children, we help you adopt a positive style for better children’s development.
There are parents who hide behind the fact that the upbringing they have received from their parents despite having been authoritarian or another parenting style … has had no problems in their upbringing and that positive parenting is just a fad. But it is not like that, positive parenting is a way of raising children from respect and understanding , where there is no lack of coherent norms and limits so that they understand that the world comes with norms. And punishments (of any kind) must be present, because they are not necessary to raise happy children.
Many other parents, seeing the effectiveness of this parenting style in the education of their children, have become more interested in being able to learn and raise their children so that they are happy and not subject. A happy child will become a successful adult, whereas a subdued child will become a subdued adult and probably with serious emotional problems.
But the reality is that many parents try to do the best they can or know how, and in many cases it is only a lack of information that parents do not know how to apply some appropriate educational strategies. When a foundation is lacking or it is not known what parenting style to follow, parents can feel lost. That is why today, I want to talk to you about positive parenting , so if you are interested, you can learn some brushstrokes so that you can carry it out.
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THREE PARTS OF POSITIVE PARENTING
There are three essential parts that make up positive parenting so that children grow up happy and parents without guilt because they believe they are doing well. The three parts are made up of:
1. Parents must commit to regulating their own emotions.
2. Parents prioritize maintaining and reinforcing the connection and emotional bond between parents and children.
3. Parents must love their children unconditionally. For this, parents must forget the punishment techniques used to control or manipulate children with punishments or rewards. Parents should feel like coaches who offer their children a loving guide so that the little ones are able to manage their emotions and their behavior.
Next I am going to give you some tips so that you can put positive parenting into practice at home from today and that in this way, crying, tantrums or any negative circumstance is eliminated forever … but you must do your part .
If you are wondering right now if this practice is a good idea, I will tell you that punishment will weaken your relationship with your child and that children will feel bad about themselves. A child who feels bad and who cannot express his emotions will only act even worse than you wanted him to remit through punishment. Punishments sabotage the self-discipline your child can learn, and you need to make it your goal to help your child feel good and act better.
EVALUATE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILDREN
You need to evaluate your relationship with your children to see if it is a strong or a weakened relationship. The most effective discipline strategy is to bond closely with your children. Children who feel connected to their parents naturally and innately want to act in a way that makes them feel pleased. When you want to discipline your child, think about doing it from love and never from punishment.
Punishment is destructive to your relationship with your child, and it also has a very negative effect on their emotional and social development , something that will aggravate their bad behavior. Establishing coherent limits and agreed consequences is a good idea so that children know what is expected of them at all times and that they feel free to decide what to do. Whenever you have to set limits, it is necessary to do it from an empathic way so that the child realizes that you care what he feels, so he can improve his behavior and at the same time, he will not be angry with you (even if you are trying to do things right ).
THE CHALLENGE WILL ALWAYS BE A RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM
If your child does not accept what you say, it is an indicator that the relationship is not strong enough to support the teaching of what you are trying to instill in him. This happens to all parents from time to time, but when it happens it is necessary to stop and think about how to strengthen the relationship with the children and not just think about how the child should “obey” you. The power struggle will only make the emotional gap between you too great.
BEWARE OF POORLY ESTABLISHED CONSEQUENCES
Consequences make sense and are appropriate as long as they are used in the right way . The child who does (or does not do) something will learn from the consequences. Consequences when they occur naturally are an incredible learning experience for children and will mark them forever. But most of the time, it is the parents who think the consequences without taking into account the opinion of their children and something that is imposed, in a way is still a punishment.
Consequences in which parents are not involved but have warned of what could happen (for example, if a child does not study for an exam they will fail or if they do not brush their teeth they will have bad breath and a lot of tartar), they will learn to suffer the consequences of your actions. But it is normal that as a parent you do not want them to be always suffering bad consequences, that is why it is necessary for children to learn what is appropriate from what is not.
Consequences as punishment are not a good option, but you can make them natural . “If you do not eat lunch today, you will be hungry”, “If you do not eat the food, it is because you are not hungry enough, so eating the chocolate dessert may not be an option”, “If this week I get one Note from the teacher saying that you haven’t done your homework , it will be the first thing you do before going out to play with your friends. ”
Likewise, it should be noted that consequences should be the last resort to use and that it will always be much more appropriate to encourage good behavior by motivating good results. Remember that from respect and love you can always achieve good results in the education of your children.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.