Getting pregnant cannot always be a joy. There are many women who become pregnant unexpectedly, something that can negatively affect their lives. This tends to occur more in adolescents, those who did not plan to become pregnant before they came of age, without having to leave their studies or postpone all their dreams from the immediate present to an uncertain future.
At PregDream we tell you how to cope with being parents in adolescence , so that young people can also enjoy this beautiful process and experience the arrival of the new member of the family with happiness.
WHEN TEENS BECOME AWARE OF PREGNANCY
One of the hardest moments for adolescents, both for the boy and the girl, will be when they realize that they are pregnant, that is, that they are expecting a child. The girl’s case will be the most prominent, since she will have to stop going to school normally and her life will be more altered than his. She may realize that she is pregnant because she will feel unusual pain and her period will not come regularly.
It is important that you take the maternity test as soon as possible to determine if you are really pregnant or have another problem with your menstrual cycle. Once the adolescent knows that she is pregnant, she must notify her parents or legal guardians. It is very important that there is a relationship of close trust between parents and children, because in the event that the relationship is not adequate, the adolescent would not tell them about the problem. The consequence of not telling it is that you may make the decision to abort on your own, and the law does not always allow you to carry out this process without the permission of your parents or guardians, so you could put your life in danger. On the contrary, if you decide to go ahead and have the baby, you will need the full help of your parents., who will be your best support.
The decision to tell the adolescent boy, or not, will depend only on the pregnant girl, it depends on the relationship they have had in each specific case. Although it is recommended that you speak with him to determine between the two of you what will be his attitude towards his future fatherhood. It may not be the best time to reproach adolescents that they should have used protection when having sex, because they will already be sufficiently sorry for themselves in the face of pregnancy.
It may be that due to the state of shock in which they feel at the beginning they are still not aware of the magnitude of the case and the great responsibility that this implies . So this is the time when family and friends should be more supportive than ever, whether they decide to have the baby or not.
DURING THE TEENAGE PREGNANCY
If the girl decides that she wants to have the baby, she should know that it will not be easy at all . In most cases, you will have the help of your family , but there will still be many sacrifices that you will have to make. Even if you think you can continue studying, you will need to be absent from school in the days before the delivery and in the months after , so that you can breastfeed your baby for as long as necessary. Later, your number of responsibilities will increase and you will no longer have as much time as before to focus exclusively on your education.
In the case of the adolescent boy, he will not have some of the roles of the mother, such as breastfeeding, but he will have to focus a large part of his attention on his newborn child , since motherhood / fatherhood is a matter of two and not of Mother. There will be cases in which families do not have enough money to take care of all the expenses that a baby implies in the family, so perhaps both he and her adolescent will have to leave their studies at 16 years old and go to work as soon as possible. In addition, adolescents will have to deal with the looks and words of reproach from many people who will be unable to understand the situation.
However, they should not fall for these attacks and should aim to be happy and not worry about what others may say or think. There are support and help centers for those who are parents during adolescence, since perhaps the girl will not feel fully prepared to raise a baby by herself, when she has not yet reached the age of majority.
What the family should not do is take full-time care of the baby as if it were theirs, the child belongs to the adolescents, since it is they who must learn how to take care of him and provide him with a mature and happy environment for their coexistence.
It won’t be easy, but teens will be good parents if they put their mind to it. This will make them mature to a great extent and see life in a different way after the birth of their baby.