How to tell your partner you want to quit your job to take care of the kids
Do you want to quit your job to take care of your children full time? Then you will have to talk to your partner about this decision, this is how you should do it!
It is a very personal decision but it is totally respectable. It is not easy to make the transition from a working mother to a stay-at-home mother. Your partner must also participate in this decision before you decide to quit your job, because it will affect the family economy as well as changes in daily routines.
Giving up your salary to be at home to care for the children and the house will require a series of changes in the home. As you evaluate what you think is right for you and your family, you will need to take a few simple steps to become a full-time stay-at-home parent. You need to understand the importance of the topic with these tips when talking to your partner about it.
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CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIME
Telling this that you think to your partner is something important and it is necessary to find a quiet moment, do not say it at an inappropriate moment because it would end up in an argument . Pick a time when the children are sleeping or not around and you are not too tired to have a serious conversation.
At the wrong time, you can have an instinctive reaction because you are not in the right moment to have a proper conversation.
KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING
When you have found the right time to talk to your partner, it does not mean that you will have the answer you are expecting right away. Quitting your job can be difficult for your partner to assimilate and requires serious reflection to see if it is possible considering the pros and cons.
Perhaps you have been thinking about this for months, so it is possible that you have enough answers to the concerns that your partner has … although for him / her all the information you provide is new. You have to be prepared for all the questions you may have or if you need to reflect to start the conversation later.
TAKE INTO ACCOUNT THEIR THOUGHTS
You don’t have to tell him what you want to do out of the blue because it can be too violent. In this sense, and before speaking it is important that you take into account their thoughts. Think about how you would feel if your partner made a decision unilaterally (without including you) about something that affects you and your children.
For this reason, you will have to think about getting ahead of his thoughts and feelings and thinking about the best way for you to tell him the idea you have in mind. You may have doubts about the economy if you go from two salaries to one in the family economy. Expenses should be reduced and have a very clear family budget. You may even need to make drastic cuts in extracurricular activities or swap vacations for being at home and going on excursions close to home.
YOU HAVE TO COMMIT
The fact that you stay at home may not be possible right now but you can take it into account for the future. You will have to commit and think of options that can make everyone happy and make everything go well. Perhaps the best solution instead of leaving your job full time is to work part time to have more time for your family.
Whatever it is, you will have to assess it with your partner to know which option is best for everyone. In this way you will not have to give up the full salary and you will also have the opportunity to have time for your house and your children.
Do you already know what you will do from now on with the care of your children and your work ?
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.