We all know that yelling at children can cause serious problems with their mental health and development. Growing up in an environment full of loud voices can harm their mental health (yours, too). Keep in mind that “good” things are rarely said out loud, while negative, soul-crushing epithets are raised to the skies. A child has no choice but to listen because he has no escape … He cannot take a taxi or a bus to go away from home. Instead, this captive victim lingers for years as the long-term effects of the screaming shape her mind.
It is impossible to have a healthy sense of self when you are a child who is frequently yelled at. Self-confidence depends on seeing yourself as valuable, respected, and loved.
Children who are yelled at can suffer damage to the way they see themselves . Children who are victims of verbal abuse rarely see themselves as worthy people. Instead, their perception of themselves is of an insignificant being that lacks the ability to positively impact society. These children can often be helped to develop confidence by participating in school sports or academic clubs in which they can achieve self-assertion.
When children who have been yelled at consistently reach the age of 4 or 5, they are likely to display aggressive behaviors themselves. These children begin to have problems in social situations with their peers.
They act by invading the personal space of others, pushing, hitting and even biting . Children exposed to yelling should be taught how to control the anger generated in them by the abuse they have suffered. Therapy is appropriate for treating aggressive behavior patterns in young children.
Many children who are yelled at become fearful. Even babies are often afraid of loud voices, especially deep and booming male voices. A shy child may react to yelling by making a face, shaking, or hiding.
A long-term fearful attitude is likely to develop if the screaming abuse continues for months or years. This shyness can cause children to have trouble developing healthy friendships. It can also affect your ability to deal with conflict, so that you withdraw from these difficult situations rather than resolve them effectively.
Concentration problems are not unusual among children who have suffered from screaming for a long period of time. Lack of concentration is one of the results of emotional abuse. Children who have learned to “tune out” from yelling do so to temporarily defend themselves against verbal assault.
However, this defense mechanism has a negative effect later on, as problems with concentration develop. This difficulty generally becomes a problem in school , especially in later grades where children are expected to concentrate for long periods of time. Individual attention from teachers and tutors can often help improve concentration with these children.
If your family tends to yell at times of stress, it is necessary that as parents, you think about how to improve that situation. Shouting does not educate and stress the heart of those who do it and those who receive it. If you can’t stop yelling when you feel frustrated raising your children, then the best thing you can do for the emotional health of your entire family is to seek professional support as soon as possible.