After a miscarriage … continue to live

If you have had a miscarriage it is more than likely that you have different feelings within you. They will be contradictory and ambivalent feelings that can make you feel bad, but remember that no one is to blame. Maybe you had a vacation planned before your miscarriage, and now you don’t know what to do. You may have little joy and little desire to have a good time after the abortion, especially if the loss is too recent.

You probably don’t really want to attend social gatherings or gatherings, or face other families with happy pregnancies or friends with newborn babies. You can feel a lot of pain in these situations. Also, it is more than likely that wherever you look you see things that remind you of your unborn baby. But life goes on and you will live Christmas, New Years, vacations, meetings with friends … And you have to be well … you deserve to be well!

WHAT ARE YOUR LIMITS

It is essential that you know your limits and that if you are invited to a party you know that you will face more stress than pleasure, and if this happens to you, it may be more appropriate to reject that invitation until you feel more prepared to be able to face social situations. Don’t be afraid to walk away from social gatherings if you’re not feeling well after losing a pregnancy.

On the other hand, consider whether being around friends can help you distract yourself for a few moments and make you feel better.

SURVEY A WAY TO BE CALM

If you have to attend a meeting, find a quiet place where you can get away from people in case you need it and you need a few minutes for yourself. You can also plan an excuse in advance for whatever reason to leave the social gathering when you’re feeling down.

DO GOOD DEEDS

Many people find that doing a good deed during the holiday season brings some emotional comfort. Some like to participate in charities to buy holiday gifts for children from less fortunate families . Others like to volunteer at nursing homes or help serve vacation meals to the homeless.

SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AS A FAMILY

Remember that a miscarriage is a loss and you will have to grieve yourself. It’s okay to mourn the loss and share your feelings with the people you love the most. People can better support you if they know what you need or what is happening to you. Remember that people who have never experienced a pregnancy loss cannot know what you are going through but they can offer you emotional support because they are people who love you and want the best for you.

CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES

You may have people around you who do not understand how you feel or value your feelings. If you have a loved one who makes thoughtless or disrespectful comments about your feelings, the smartest thing to do is smile and nod because it is not worth fighting with people who do not understand how you feel.

Remember that while certain comments can be infuriating and hurtful, the person making them is probably not intentionally trying to be insensitive and will most likely change the subject after a minute or two.

LOOK FOR COMFORT WHEREVER YOU ARE

You can search for support groups online or in people. If you are a spiritual person you can attend events that can understand your feelings. If you have any concerns about your feelings because you think you might have depression, don’t be afraid to consult your doctor or a psychologist because it could help you with your emotional and mental health.

DON’T FEEL BAD IF YOU ENJOY

Remember that it is not bad if you have fun or if you have a good time. Life goes on and you must think about recovering. Just because you are well or enjoying life does not mean that you are forgetting about your lost baby. Don’t feel guilty for moving on and living your life.