To be fathers , or to be mothers, nobody teaches us. We have to learn through practice , failing and erring in order, little by little, to see what is the best way to do each thing. Nobody tells us how to educate our children, how to reach their hearts and make them become people of benefit. They tell us that we have to take them to school, but they don’t tell us what to do when their classmates don’t treat them well; They tell us that we need to be aware of their health, both physical and emotional, but they do not teach us to deal with serious illnesses . It is us, fathers and mothers, who have to go on learning. And it is that, unfortunately, children do not come with a manual under their arm.
But that’s what cinema is for, luckily. To try to show us how other people have coped with these problems, how you can survive according to what circumstances and situations. Thanks to the (fictitious) experiences of other fathers and mothers, we see how we might react at times. And, above all, we see what are the mistakes that we should never make with our children. That’s what movies and actors are for, to do all these gaffes for us.
Do you want to see some movies that help you see fatherhood and motherhood in a different way? What help you to be fathers or mothers? That they reach out to you in your moments of doubt? Well let’s get to it!
1. ‘IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS’
It is one of the best known, but also one of the most beautiful films when it comes to seeing how important the figure of a father is to a son. In this film , you will see how Chris Gardner (excellently played by Will Smith ) must face eviction with a young son, barely five years old.
In those moments of hardship, when everything seems to fail, it is just when parents (or mothers) must draw strength from weakness to take care of their children. Chris proves it, putting his imagination to the issue and trying to make this entire phase as traumatic as possible for his son . A beautiful film that will undoubtedly touch your heart and draw more than one tear … And more than one smile.
2. ‘FINDING NEMO’
Let’s intersperse a tougher movie with a much funnier one, and where the father figure is still fundamental. Have you seen ‘ Finding Nemo ‘? It is one of the most famous animated films of the moment, and that should already say a lot about it. Nemo is a small clownfish who has a deformity in one of the fins , and lives with his father. His father, Marlin, loves him, and lives constantly scared that something could happen to his little Nemo. But that worry is not enough, and your little fish is lost.
The search for Nemo then begins. It is then that the strength that a father must have is demonstrated, the perseverance that he must demonstrate, in order to take care of his children. The difficulties that poor Marlin faces are known only to him … And we, who will see them as spectators, of course.
By the way, if you want another animated film (this one much older) where the figure of fatherhood is analyzed, even when it is not biological, take a look at ‘Pinocchio’. That wooden child who does not have an iota of understanding, and who makes his father lose himself in the darkest places in order to find him. Disney, always helping us in all facets of our life.
3. ‘STAY BY MY SIDE’
Being a mother does not imply being a mother only in a biological way, just like being a father. On many occasions, we may have to act like mothers to people who do not have our blood and still make us feel like mothers. That is the case of Julia Roberts in ‘ Stay by my side ‘, an old film but that everyone should see.
Isabel is a photographer who falls deeply in love with a divorced man with children. From here, begins the story of a young woman who wants to win the love of her adopted children and who does not have it easy at all, since she has no choice but to face the figure of the biological mother. With films of this style, it is learned that the children are ahead of anything, of any possible rivalry, and that it is worth sacrificing according to what things for them.
4. ‘BIG FISH’
If you are looking for a movie to cry on during the entire screening, ‘ Big Fish ‘ is yours. Directed by Tim Burton , and with that particular touch that only he knows how to give it, this film will take you to other worlds where fantasy and reality overlap. And, despite everything, fatherhood continues to be the central axis of the film.
William Bloom does not have a particularly good relationship with his father , but when he learns that his father is about to pass away, he returns home to spend his last days with him. It is then that, recalling all those stories that his father did not stop telling during his youth, he really understands who he is. The love of a son towards his father is also something that every father wants to hear from time to time, of course.
5. ‘LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL’
Finally, another movie that will make you cry and show you the best of fatherhood is ‘ Life is beautiful ‘. Another movie that will make you cry a lot, of course. It was directed by Roberto Benigni , and it is one of the classics that everyone should see at least once in their life.
The protagonist is sent along with his son to one of the Nazi concentration camps that took place during the Second World War . To prevent your child from experiencing all that suffering, try to make him believe that it is nothing more than a game, with some simple rules that he must follow in order to survive. The child , thanks to the way the father tells it, believes everything. And the rest of the movie is best seen for yourself, so that you can judge.