The myth of multitasking mothers

It is true that women say that they are multitaskers and although it is true it can generate additional stress. All mothers are capable of doing things very quickly, but it can be too emotionally costly. A mother may be cooking dinner, playing with her children and thinking about something she has to do from work the next day … The reality is that if you do many tasks at the same time, you cannot do any of them very well. .

Today there are many women who feel burned and stressed by the stressful pace of life they lead. The depression is the second most debilitating disease in women. Women can have it all, but having it all at once is causing very serious problems in their emotional health and in their personal lives.

THE BRAIN IS NOT DESIGNED FOR MULTITASKING

There is research showing that multitasking is bad for the brain. People who multitask experience a drop in their IQ similar to a person losing a night of sleep. Multitasking gives us a false sense of accomplishment. We are busy, but at the end of the day, what do we have better because of it?

QUALITY OVER QUANTITY

The work of high quality is the result of two things: the amount of time devoted to work and intensity of concentration during that time. If you can increase your concentration, you can get more done in less time. You will feel less stressed and confused, and you will do a better job.

WHAT DO YOU TEACH YOUR CHILDREN

Think about the message you are sending to your children when you do not put down your mobile phone to have a conversation with them. When you can’t stand still and just be by his side. When you are not able to sit for a few minutes with your children and you have to be doing things at home constantly even if you are tired of daily work.

Although there are times when multitasking can be a good idea, it should be the exception and not the daily rule of how you act on a daily basis in your life.

STOP BEING MULTITASKING

Even if you think that you will never be able to stop being it, for your health it is necessary that you do so. You have to decide when you want to be and when you can’t. For example, when you are with your children : turn off your phone, don’t look at the mail and close the door. In the same way when you are working, dedicate yourself to work and not to think about what you will do at dinner.

From now on when you get home, turn off your phone and spend quality time with your kids. Maybe earlier while making dinner you did more chores … you need to realize when you can multitask and when it is more important that you focus on what you are doing. You will have to do your best to reduce distractions.

Close the office door when you have to finish an important project, if there are distracting noises, put music on your headphones to help you focus. Reduce interference from your phone by turning off notifications in apps and social media, and remove email from notifications on your phone. When you come home from work, give your children and / or partner your full attention by turning off your phone.

PLAN AND PREPARE

Spend five to ten minutes at the end of your workday, planning for the next day.  Write down everything you need to do, prioritize tasks and schedule them on your calendar. In this way you will have more peace of mind and cover more things and also you can do things and finish them with more quality. Remember that the secret to doing things well is quality and not quantity.