Bullying or bullying is not just something for children, they are not jokes nor should they fix it between them, since they need the help and guidance of an adult. There is nothing harmless about bullying. Bullying is traumatic, hurtful, and a massive contributor to the annual suicide rate for school children.
WHAT IS BULLYING?
Bullying can be in the form of:
- Physical violence or provocation: Pinching, hitting, kicking, bruising, hitting, and even shoving are all parts of physical bullying .
- Verbal attacks: name calling and hurtful comments also qualify as bullying because they belittle or hurt the victim . This can also include comments of a sexual nature that upset the child who is being bullied.
- Cyberbullying: This type of bullying is becoming more and more apparent as children and teens may use social media or instant messages to bully each other.
- Social Isolation – Deliberately making a child feel isolated or rejected is another type of bullying that is often ignored or downplayed.
Nobody deserves to be bullied and nobody has the right to bully others. In reality, victims of bullying may have certain characteristics in common:
- Children who lack self-confidence
- Children who are “different”
Bullies don’t want to be discovered by anyone who is not an easy victim; they like to do their intimidation in secret, using threats … to feel that they are in control and that no one can do anything against them.
WHY DO BULLIES INTIMIDATE?
Bullying is not a natural reaction, nor is it normal. Bullies are in trouble and need urgent help. Some of the reasons they may harass are:
- They are insecure and want to deviate from their own inner flaws or pains by focusing on others.
- They have been bullied or mistreated and they project their pain onto others.
- Their role models are bad examples. There could be violence at home or in their neighborhood, and they are mimicking the behavior of the people who are closest to them.
HOW TO DEFEAT BULLYING WITHOUT PROMOTING VIOLENCE
Here are some suggestions to follow:
- Ignore It. It is complicated but bullies do what they do because they expect a reaction to reinforce their behavior (just like a young child has a tantrum and expects a response from the adult). They want to know that they have made you feel bad. If you don’t have the right reaction (fear, sadness, or anger), they are likely to lose interest very quickly.
- Do not defend yourself, if you do it will only intensify the situation, but always-always you must be safe.
- Avoid the aggressor . If you know where it is, avoid that place. If you know that something will make him angry, do not do it to confront yourself.
- Try something different. Instead of reacting the same way you always do (if you do) try something different. Answer calmly, or walk away.
- Use your sense of humor. Making others laugh will change the focus. So if a stalker calls you fat, smile and say something like, “It’s just my big overflowing personality,” or “I’m not fat, I’m harder to kidnap.
- Improve your confidence. If you have more confidence in yourself, the bully will not choose you as a victim. Know your strengths and treat yourself with the respect you deserve. If you don’t treat yourself well, why should others? If it’s your child, help him understand this. Bullies want to destroy your self-confidence.
- You’re not alone. It is important to explain what is happening to teachers and parents so they can help. No matter the threats you receive, it is more important that you say it so that they help you and the situation can be resolved, if you do not, it will only get worse. Bullies don’t want to be discovered by anyone who is not an easy victim.