Parental control: need or interference in your child’s life?
You must know how to measure what level of control you can exercise, taking into account all the nuances of new technologies.
When we are parents, we obviously care about the safety of our children. Parental control must act in those aspects of your life that must be supervised by the negative influence they may have on them. New technologies make it easier for them to access content that is inappropriate for them. For this reason, it is advisable to exercise control over the use they make of devices such as mobile phones, computers and television, always bearing in mind that their privacy must first be respected and that parental control should not be a total intrusion into their privacy.
First of all, you have to act one way or another depending on how old your children are. In the first place, in the case that they are small, the most appropriate thing would be to select the content directed only for them. Obviously, intrusion into their mobile phone would not enter into debate in this case since at an early age it is not necessary for them to have one, since they will not be of any use and they will always go with their parents or a responsible adult.
In the case of computers or tablets, it is important to establish parental control so that they can accidentally access files that are not for their age. The most correct thing is to resort to games or pages with entirely children’s content and it is the parents who put it into operation. In the case of television, children’s content must also be the only choice.
Sometimes, when they are watching television with an adult and there is a program on that uses expressions that are not suitable for them and that they can repeat, the right thing to do would be to prevent him from hearing it. For this reason, there are time slots to protect minors. In case there are times that this is not effective enough, there are entirely children’s channels, whether paid or free, that will make them enjoy equally.
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NEW TECHNOLOGIES CAN BE ALLY OR ENEMY
The problem comes when we have teenage children . Any parental control attempts that are made will be seen as an intrusion into their privacy without actually meaning that. You have to know how to deal with the reserved nature that they have when they are in that stage of life. In this case, rather than exercising parental control by checking to see what they do or what they access, it is best to restrict it. For example, in the case of television and computers, depending on whether they are studying or on vacation , they may be allowed to use them for a certain time, otherwise it may be a distraction that does not help them focus on what that really matters.
COMMUNICATION AND TRUST WITH YOUR CHILDREN IS MORE IMPORTANT
A separate section deserves the issue of the mobile phone , since controlling it is much more complicated since it is usually always with them and any attempt to control can be understood as intrusion into their privacy. It is known that the most used applications are social networks. Some such as Facebook and Twitter can be controlled by having them as a friend or a follower, but the problem comes with those that are only accessible through the mobile itself. These are usually the most dangerous as they involve file sharing that may not be appropriate or that may speak to people who influence them in a negative way. In this case,the best thing would be to control the use that they can make of it, leaving it, for example, only when they go out to the street , when they want to meet …
CONTROL THE TIME OF MOBILE USE
In short, when it is really necessary . This way you can avoid, unless it does not serve as a distraction element. On the other hand, if you want to know who he is talking to, you must do it in a subtle way, since you should not lose his confidence. Obviously, checking the cell phone once it gives you when it is required is the easiest way , but in a way you are not respecting their private life, so, if you do not see anything strange, try to have your child tell you. .
Parental control both with the mobile, computer or television must be used only with the intention of protecting our son and not with the gossip in his life. We must be very careful to differentiate it since the trust they have in us is at stake. The control is fine to prevent them from seeing inappropriate content, not accessing inappropriate web pages or exceeding the use of your mobile phone , but it must always be borne in mind that he must also learn what is right and what is wrong and not always you have to be behind.
Many times we may go overboard and see a problem where they too and see it. Therefore, in those cases it is not necessary to exercise any control since they themselves are able to deduce for themselves. Control to help and protect, never to meddle.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.