What to do if your parents don’t like your partner
If you have introduced your partner to your parents and they have not liked it … what can you do about it so that everything goes well?
The moment you and your partner formalize the relationship is an exciting time and it is time to tell the families. The moment when your partner meets your parents for the first time is a special moment, but it can also be stressful for everyone involved. But … what happens when it doesn’t go well, when your parents don’t like it as much as you thought they would, and when they actually tell you they don’t like it at all?
If your parents didn’t like your partner, here are five things you can do. Don’t worry, it may seem like a super frustrating and difficult situation, but you can get through this and have everything go well again.
Ask them to be honest about why they don’t like your partner.
When you discover that your parents don’t like your partner, your first instinct is most likely to get angry with them. You want to ask how they might say these things to you, and you might even want to stop talking to them for a few days (or even a few weeks). Although this is how you really want to act, it is not the best idea at the moment.
Instead, go ahead and ask your parents to be honest about why they tell you they don’t like your partner. They probably have a good reason for telling you this. They may think that it reminds them of someone you used to date and that person was not good for you, so they worry that a similar situation (and a bad separation) will happen again. They may not be sure that he has a good work ethic or that he is close to his family, and those are values that are really important to them.
The best thing to do in this situation is to listen carefully to what your parents have to say. You have to be open to their opinions and not get angry or refuse to listen to them. At the very least, they will be happy and impressed that you are willing to talk to them about this and be a good listener. It will show a level of maturity that you might not expect in this type of situation.
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HAVE TO ACCEPT IT IF THEY WANT YOU
If you are very confident about this couple and you know that they are an amazing person (or at least it will be once the two of you get more serious and spend more time together), then it’s time to be honest with your parents. Even if they don’t like it, they will have to accept it if they love you.
No parent wants to lose touch with their child and have a big fight that ruins the family . Your parents may not want to stop talking to you just because they have some reservations or feelings about your new partner. If you are sincere that you are being teased and that you really like him and you think that everyone should try to get along, they may well listen and agree.
THAT THEY KNOW EACH OTHER BETTER
It’s definitely time for your partner and your parents to get to know each other so that you can have a good positive relationship . It’s also a good idea to remember that this probably won’t happen overnight. Plan a few smaller meetings so you can get to know each other better, but make sure your motto is totally “slow and steady.”
They won’t start to get along overnight , but the more time your parents spend with your partner, the more they will like him and understand why you are dating him. Remember that after the first few times they will keep saying they don’t like it.
GIVE THEM THE BENEFIT OF TIME AND DOUBT
It’s tempting to think that your parents are being totally unfair and unreasonable if they tell you that they don’t like your partner. Sure, you’re going to feel that way for a while , but you know that’s not the best way to proceed. Give your parents the benefit of the doubt and also give them some time.
Remember that they love you above anything else and they want the best for you. That is the only reason they are worried about you and your partner . Maybe they just need to get used to being in a relationship again. Maybe you were so heartbroken by the end of your last relationship that you just want to make sure that doesn’t happen again …. It may take a little time, but if you and your partner are really a good match and are meant to be together, then your parents will figure that out. And then everyone can put this behind us and look to happier times.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.