The culture in which we live still teaches women to please others before themselves, fortunately this is changing little by little. When you are pregnant, it is an even better time to get toxic people out of your life, all those people who are in your life unnecessarily and who, more than contributing, misfortune you.
When a woman is pregnant she feels a lot of strength, but also a lot of vulnerability. Although this vulnerability can feel like a gift, because you will be able to expand your love towards the world, realizing who is worth being in your life and who … is not. The words, actions, and emotions of others will have a deeper impact on how you interact with yourself and the environment, and how you go through the stages of pregnancy and delivery.
You have to make sure that your journey to motherhood is filled with people who honor and nurture you rather than take advantage of you. There are some people that it is better to avoid during your pregnancy and it will probably not be a good idea to have them accompany you in your motherhood or in your life. Do you need examples? Do not lose detail.
WOMEN WHO TELL YOU TERRIBLE STORIES OF CHILDBIRTH
You don’t need other people to tell you about the possible birth scenarios . There are very beautiful births and births that can be a real nightmare. But each delivery is a different experience and you will have yours. Don’t waste your time listening to terrible stories of painful childbirth or stillbirth.
If it is a stranger, mother, sister, cousin, partner, acupuncturist, or anyone trying to share a horrible birth story with you, stop them and ask if what they are going to tell you will help you stay safe in your delivery. If what they are going to instill in you is fear, then it is better that they remain silent.
THE PART OF YOU THAT SCARES YOU
Yes, maybe one of those people that you should remove from your life is that part of you that only thinks about fear or that you are not capable of doing things right. Pregnancy and childbirth is an unpredictable path but what you should keep in mind is that you ARE capable of doing it. Nature has given you the gift of life, and although you don’t know what it is like, it can be. Always think about your health and that of your baby and when making decisions, do so knowing that it is the best for both of you . Pay attention to medical indications to safeguard your health.
What matters is that you cut ties with the fear within you and that even if you follow your intuition, do not follow your fears . This break can be painful, leaving you momentarily unattached to your mental stability, but over time you will be filled with enthusiasm for the possibilities that this freedom allows you.
PEOPLE WHO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO
These people are comfortable with the way they chose to deliver and want you to validate their choices by doing the same. But you don’t have to if you don’t want to or don’t agree with those decisions. You can feel intuitively balanced with some of the options these people suggest; If so, fine …
But what if you don’t resonate with the options they offer? You can say no, you can choose something else. Your choices have nothing to do with them. If they realize that and are not attached to whether you follow their path or another, they can be in your life. But if they pressure you to do it their way, you may need to limit your exposure to them, at least until your baby arrives.
FRIENDS YOU DON’T FEEL EMOTIONALLY SAFE WITH
Perhaps you have a friend during your pregnancy who does not understand why you and your partner can be happy about an unplanned pregnancy and can say that in front of everyone. If something like this happens to you, it is normal that you feel hurt and that your friendship is breaking … And you will feel that the time has come to remove that person from your life.
When a woman is pregnant she realizes faster who is worth being in her life and who is better to get out of. Don’t waste your emotional energy on people who don’t deserve your attention. Take care of your emotions during pregnancy and only share it with those who take care of you with sweetness and delicacy.
A VERY SCARED MOTHER OR MOTHER-IN-LAW
If your mother or mother-in-law is instilling a dose of fear in you instead of projecting optimism into your pregnancy … then you better not spend too much time by their side. Even if they say things to you with good intentions, if they make you feel bad or scare you at the time of delivery, it will be good for you to mark a little emotional distance, at least until your baby is born.
Although you may not always agree with these opinions, they often have a powerful presence in your mind. If you have a mother figure near you who frequently shares thoughts that increase your fear during pregnancy, you can also prohibit all conversations about childbirth when you are with her. Suggest that you take the time to host a baby shower, but if you follow up with a negative conversation about pregnancy, labor, or birth, then distance yourself.
PEOPLE WHO ARE JEALOUS OF YOUR PREGNANCY
There are people who cannot get pregnant and when you are, they find it difficult to be happy for you and in fact, they feel jealous or envious. It is common for women to have certain problems conceiving and want to get pregnant … But don’t exclude them from your life, they are the ones who have to work on their negative emotions.
Although if you see that any of them find it extremely difficult to enjoy your pregnancy, and this makes you feel bad, tell him that you love him but that it is better if you stop seeing each other for a while. You have the full right to prioritize your baby.