5 phrases that you should not teach your children
There are a series of phrases that you should never teach your children either in words or with your own example.
There are some phrases that you should not teach your children, neither in words nor with your example. They are phrases that can stone the emotional health of your children and also your own, especially when, for whatever reason, you say them often. If you ever say these phrases that we are going to comment on below, it is time to delete them from your usual language !
Your children do not deserve to hear these phrases because what they deserve is to learn from your example to be strong and secure in their life and in their thoughts. These phrases will only make them feel insecure or believe that they are not capable of doing things on their own.
Index
1. IT’S NOT FAIR
Everyone knows that life is not fair . Saying something is not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair, which makes you look immature and naive. If you do not want to look bad, you must accept the things that happen and remain constructive, leaving aside the interpretation you have.
2. THIS IS NOT WHAT I HAVE TO DO
This often sarcastic phrase makes you sound like you’re only willing to do the minimum necessary to make a profit, which is a bad thing if you want personal or job security. In the case of work, if your boss asks you to do something that you consider inappropriate for your position (as opposed to morally or ethically inappropriate), the best move is to complete the task with enthusiasm.
Later, schedule a conversation with your boss to discuss your role in the company, and if your job description needs an update, you can do so assertively.
3. IT’S NOT MY FAULT
It is never a good idea to blame someone else, you have to have a responsible attitude. If you had a role, no matter how small, in which something went wrong, assume your responsibilities. If not, offer an objective and dispassionate explanation of what happened. Stick to the facts and allow others to draw their conclusions, but you will have a clear conscience.
This is very important for children to learn, because the example of taking responsibility for your actions will help your children take responsibility for their actions from infancy . The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people start to see you as someone who lacks responsibility for their actions … and your children, too. This makes people nervous and your children feel insecure around you.
4. I CAN’T
I can not, is the twisted sister of my fault. People don’t like to hear that you can’t because they think it means you won’t. Saying I can’t suggests that you are unwilling to do whatever it takes to do what you should.
If you really can’t do something because you lack the necessary skills, you should offer an alternative solution . Instead of saying what you can’t do, say what you can do. For example, instead of saying “I can’t stay late tonight”, you can say “I can come early tomorrow morning. Is it better?” Instead of “I can’t do what you tell me” it is better to say: ” Can anyone teach me how to do this that I can do it next time on my own. ”
This will help your children understand the importance that even if they don’t know how to do something, they will always have the option to learn it.
5. I HATE THIS JOB / I HATE WHAT I DO
When your children hear from your mouth saying with frustration that you hate what you are doing or that you hate your job, what do you think you are teaching them? They probably think that living frustrated doing things that one does not like is normal and what they must accept … and nothing is further from the truth.
The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. They label you as a negative person and lower the morale of the group . Bosses are quick to pick up on morale-dragging naysayers, and they know there are enthusiastic replacements waiting around the corner. The best option is to enjoy life and what you do, and if you don’t like something … change it.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.