It is not uncommon for victims of bullying to repeat the negative messages they hear, sometimes without even realizing they are doing it. For example, they may say, “I am a loser,” every time they make a mistake. Or, they can say, “I’m like a cow,” every time they look in the mirror. When this happens, victims are internalizing the messages that the bullies have told them or about them. In fact, they have heard these messages so many times from bullies that they often believe them to be true and repeat them to themselves.
As a result, it is extremely important for teens to learn how to counter these negative messages with positive messages.
THE BENEFIT OF POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
One of the best ways to do this is with positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are affirmations that children repeat to themselves. These statements help teens reprogram their brains and thinking after being bullied. The goal is for positive thinking to become more automatic and negative words to become less frequent.
The purpose of positive affirmations is for the adolescent to learn to make positive affirmations about what they would like to see manifested in their life and they will repeat them enough so that they become part of their thought processes . These statements should define how she sees herself and the world around her.
TIPS FOR TEENS TO CREATE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS ABOUT THEMSELVES
To help your teen develop her own positive affirmations, follow these guidelines and everything will go smoothly.
Examine the goals
Ask your teenager to think about what they want to be different in their life. This means that you need to be able to identify what you want to happen, including the behaviors, attitudes, and traits that you think you need to achieve it. Whatever your experience, having clearly defined goals will help you change the trajectory of your life and your situation.
Create the thoughts
Once your teenager has recognized what he wants to be different in his life, challenge him to put those ideas into a few sentences to create the thoughts that should stick in his mind. You will have to express these statements as if they are already true and not that you expect them to happen. For example: “I am happy with my friends” instead of saying, “I want to have more friends .”
The idea is that your teenager is programming his subconscious mind to believe the affirmations he is creating. By doing so, you will help your goals become reality. Remember, your teen is trying to make something happen, not expressing a wish list.
Affirmations have to be positive
What this means is that your teen should focus on what he wants to happen, not what he doesn’t want to happen. For example, if your teenager wants to develop a healthier lifestyle because he has been the victim of weight teasing, he should avoid saying things like “I don’t want to feel fat “, he should say things like: “I feel healthy” or “I I feel good about myself. ”
Claims should be realistic
The subconscious mind benefits from positive affirmations, but if your teenager creates statements that are too implausible, his mind will not be fooled. Your positive affirmations should be hopeful but realistic .
Talk about the affirmations created
Once your teen has created her positive affirmations, help her put them into action. Encourage her to speak kindly and positively to herself every day, several times a day. Also, you could help put positive affirmations on notes and stick them on her mirror.
The idea is that you will be reminded to reaffirm the positive things in your life and where you are going. When you do this consistently, negative talk will become a thing of the past … and you will feel good about yourself and your life.