Adolescent pregnancy is a phenomenon that, although it may seem isolated to us, is not so isolated . When you look at the statistics, you discover that every year in Spain there are 600 girls who have not reached the age of majority who become pregnant. Some decide to continue with the pregnancy and become a mother, others to give the baby up for adoption and others decide to abort .
The situations of each adolescent who becomes pregnant are different. It influences the relationship with the father of the child, the economic and emotional circumstances of his family and the degree of maturity of the mother herself. However, all of them have in common the fact that they have become pregnant at a very young age, so much so that they are full of doubts about what they have to do and their future .
Today there is a multitude of sexual information so that adolescents can enjoy sex without becoming pregnant. The documentation is available to anyone who has a computer at hand or who can pass through a sexual attention center .
TELL YOUR FAMILY OR GUARDIANS
Yet there are times when prevention fails and teenage couples are not as responsible as one might expect. They can come due to a hormonal revolution, to the desire to be with the partner and not wait or simply to an inappropriate use of contraceptives. If you find yourself in this situation, you have to remember that you can go to a family planning center and ask for the morning after pill that will prevent pregnancy . This is an exceptional measure that cannot be used as a regular resource.
DOUBTS ABOUT WHETHER YOU ARE PREGNANT
If you have had unprotected sex and you suspect that you are pregnant, do not hesitate to take a test at the first lack of menstruation. Sometimes the period may be delayed for a few days due to nerves at the possibility of being pregnant , so the sooner you get rid of doubts the better . If the result is positive, you have to analyze the options you have from then on regarding whether or not to have the baby.
The first thing to do is go to the doctor. He will be the one to see you and tell how the baby is and how your own health is. It should be borne in mind that teenage pregnant women differ from those of adults in that the body that is to house the fetus is still very young . This can lead to further complications because you have to ‘mature’ in a hurry.
Teen pregnancies are often considered high risk, so the doctor’s control must be continuous . Coping with a pregnant woman alone is difficult, especially when you are very young and it was not your foresight to be responsible for another person.
SEEK SUPPORT FROM YOUR LOVED ONES, DON’T FEEL ALONE
We generally tend to take refuge in people of the same sex, perhaps because they may go through or have gone through a pregnancy and are more knowledgeable about everything that will happen during the next few months. The mother is usually the greatest support we can have in these cases, but she may not be the person with whom you feel most comfortable to discuss the pregnancy with her at first .
It is important that the young mother is supported throughout the pregnancy. Stressful situations are not convenient for any woman in her situation, especially if she is a teenager who does not know what to do. Surround yourself with people who can help you and whom you trust. Ask them to accompany you to the doctor and to any procedure that you have to do and that you do not feel that you are ready to face it alone .
BEING A MOTHER OR OPTING FOR ADOPTION
The two main options that exist when a teenager discovers that she is pregnant are to move on or to end it. Be it one or the other, the decision must be widely weighed and studied by the mother – and the father if involved – and must be supported in it by their closest environment. In the first case, two possibilities also arise: keeping the baby once it is born and making it part of your family, perhaps even with the father; or give the child up for adoption .
Being pregnant as a teenager means for the mother, and at least it should also be for the father, having to mature quickly to assume a series of responsibilities . If to this is added the fact that they want to act as parents and form their own family, they must be aware that theirs will be very different from the lives of their friends since they will become parents of a child that will require constant attention, without count on the need to obtain financial resources to carry it out. This will mean getting a job and probably finishing school or putting it on hold for a while .
Sometimes the family of one or both parents may agree to provide the necessary resources so that the parents can continue to lead a normal life for someone their age.
There are adolescents who decide to continue with their pregnancy but do not see themselves with the necessary strength to be a mother at such a young age and decide to give the baby up for adoption so that many of the couples who are looking for a child can have it. In the case of Spain, adoptions are processed through social services and once you arrive at the hospital to give birth .
However, the process can be consulted with them (they have offices in all municipalities, depending on the town hall) and there are support groups for women who want to give their baby for adoption to another family. They can also inform you of the terms and rights you have over the baby as a mother .
The option of abortion is very popular among adolescents who become pregnant without intending it and do not want to be mothers. Voluntary termination of pregnancy can be carried out up to the 14th week of gestation without having to state any reason . This according to the legislation in force in Spain since the government is currently working to modify the law and make it more restrictive.
However, the laws are changing and there are more and more obstacles to being able to terminate pregnancy voluntarily . You must inform yourself correctly about your situation to know whether or not you can abort.