Pros and cons of telling your child that he is gifted
If you have a gifted child, you may be wondering whether to tell him that he is or if it is better not to say anything, what to do?
Parents often wonder if they should tell their children that they are talented or gifted. After all, many people believe that it is not good to tell children about their intellectual abilities because they fear that this information will cause those children to have too big an ego. They think that children could become arrogant and intolerant of others. There are also those who believe that children who discover that they are gifted may have socialization problems and that they isolate themselves from their peers or that it is their peers who isolate them.
But in reality, it is that gifted children often have socialization problems and knowing that they are gifted can help them better understand many things that happen and face every day.
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THE GIFTED CHILD
Although learning with special needs can help gifted children, some parents and educators disapprove of the term ‘gifted’ because they feel it implies that. A child has a ‘gift’ that other children do not have and others may feel ‘less able’. This results from the fact that many people think that all children are equal and therefore gifted.
Denying gifted children the facts about their intellectual abilities can do more harm than good. The truth is that gifted children feel at a very young age that they are not like other children. They can easily misinterpret feelings of being different as negative, often viewing themselves as flawed in some way or as having something wrong that others do not.
It can be a great relief for gifted children to learn that they do not have any flaws or defects and that there is a reason why they feel different, but this does not make them superior or inferior to others. They simply have to accept their personal characteristics and their own idiosyncrasies because it is the only way in which they can develop their full potential and not only on a very intellectual level as well as an emotional one.
In addition, gifted children often feel isolated and alone, which is why they develop social problems because they feel different. They may have a hard time making friends, or they may feel misunderstood and unpleasant towards others. In most cases, gifted children have these problems in the school environment, where they are forced to create friendships with the students in their class. Children who have trouble socializing with their classmates generally have no trouble establishing and maintaining friendships with older children or other gifted children.
YOUR CHILD SHOULD KNOW THAT HE IS GIFTED
Telling a child that he is gifted will not make him feel different because the child may already feel that way. It is a mark that they know that they understand what is happening to them, that they know that it is nothing bad and above all, that they are unique like any other child their age … even if they have high abilities. Pretending that a child’s endowment does not exist will not make those feelings go away, just as pretending that a child’s disability does not exist will not make the disability go away.
It is important for parents to educate their children about what being gifted is and what it means to be. They can read books on the subject, be in associations where there are more gifted children so that they can make friends and above all, so that they see that there are more children who are going through the same situation or who have gone through it before because they are older.
In this sense, it is important that you accept that your child is gifted and that you do not try to hide what he really is . It is necessary to accept children with all their idiosyncrasies because it is what makes them unique in the world, whether they are gifted or not.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.