How to get your life back after a virtual attack on your motherhood
If you have received a virtual attack on your motherhood, you should know how to begin to regain control of your life.
There are many mothers who receive virtual attacks on their motherhood … by having profiles on social networks you will be exposed to others seeing what you post. If you post something that doesn’t seem right to them, whatever it is, they will criticize you thinking that they have an absolute right to do so, although that is not the case. They do not have to criticize what you do to raise your children since each mother will do what she considers best for her little ones.
What happens is that thanks to the Internet it is easier and more impulsive to say things, so that through written language you can find messages and comments of all kinds. They can criticize if you breastfeed or if you give formula milk, if you co-sleep or if you have already put your baby to sleep alone in his crib … There are different opinions and it is important that you do not give power to the comments you receive from the internet .
In fact, if you receive this type of comments, it is important that you do not answer or give power over your emotions to users (or trolls) of social networks. They are people who may even envy you for your life or have problems in their personal lives and the only way to feel better is by attacking others. So if you receive comments from trolls, the best thing you can do is delete the comment without reading it, block that user and not give importance to what they tell you.
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TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AFTER COMMENTS FROM TROLLS
If you have received an attack on your motherhood through social networks, it is likely that you feel many emotions, ranging from sadness to anger or disbelief. Some days it may seem like you will never get back to normal … But you are not. For example, every time you go to the supermarket, take your child to the park or visit the library, you may feel that all eyes are on you, and that you are being judged. But you don’t have to live like this, far from it.
We are going to explain some things you can do that will help you focus on the recovery and control of your life. Thus, you will feel who you are again even if others judge you and if they do … may it be absolutely the same to you !?
CHANGE YOUR THINKING PATTERNS
Many times, people who have been publicly embarrassed insist on what they have experienced, often allowing them to consume their thoughts and energy. The goal is for your thoughts to revolve around things that have meaning or purpose in your life, and not the embarrassment you experienced from the written words of a virtual troll .
Changing the way you think can also help you move forward, even on days when you don’t feel like doing it. If you have trouble changing your thought processes on your own, a therapist can help you reframe your thinking. Remember, you should seek the lessons of life about what happens to you and put aside anything that gives you negativity.
KEEP A STRONG MIND
It’s easy to be strong when everything is going according to plan. But the true test of your strength occurs when you encounter problems or difficulties. Remember, embarrassing a mother is painful and can take too much emotional toll. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Doing so is not a sign of weakness . Instead, show your strength and show that you want to improve their situation.
Do not collapse in negative thoughts, do not allow that Internet troll to have the power over your emotions because that power only you have.
FOCUS ON YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH
Take a realistic look at your situation. Where do you need to improve? Identify the areas where you may need to heal and grow. For example, you may want to work on your self-esteem or assertiveness. Or maybe, you are battling anxiety and depression and need to speak to a doctor. Regardless of how the virtual trolls comment affected you, you should focus on the areas of your life where you need to improve … without paying attention to the negative comments. Get rid of those negative feelings that embarrassment causes you.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.