Raising a teenager requires a delicate balance between giving them enough guidance to ensure they make healthy choices and giving them enough freedom to make mistakes and learn from them. Under good supervision, mistakes and failure will be the best teachers for teenage boys and girls.
It is necessary to establish rules at home that encourage adolescents to behave more and more responsibly. It will be necessary to clearly and specifically define what the negative consequences will be when breaking a rule, so that you will feel sufficient control to be able to choose the best behaviors in each case.
When teens argue about following the rules, it is a sign that they are not yet ready for that great responsibility and may need more guidance. When your teen shows that he can follow the rules, allow for more independence. In any case, they need to follow these types of rules for their good development.
RULES FOR MAKING GOOD SAFETY DECISIONS
Teenagers tend to think of themselves as immortal and invincible. They also tend to be impulsive, so it’s very important to set rules that promote safety. Here are some examples:
-Drugs and alcohol. Adolescents must be informed about the realities of drug and alcohol use. Talk often about how to make good decisions and set clear consequences for what will happen if you take these types of substances. You should also teach him how to get out of a bad situation and to call you whenever he needs to get out of a bad situation. Also discuss how you can get out of a bad situation if you need a ride home.
-The time to get home. Nothing good ever happens after midnight. Set a clear curfew schedule, and your teen should stick to it. If he respects it, you can think about giving him a little more freedom in the schedule of his outings.
RULES FOR UNDERSTANDING MORALITY
The teen years offer teens the opportunity to explore their values. Setting expectations clear at this age can influence the values your child embraces. There are some important areas for these ages:
-Tell the truth and be honest. Set rules with your teen that encourage honesty. You will have to accept that the consequences for misbehavior will be more severe if you try to lie to hide the truth.
-Respect for others. Teens need rules to treat others with respect. This means rules not to intimidate others, not to spread rumors or gossip, and also to speak respectfully and kindly to anyone.
RULES TO HAVE GOOD HABITS IN LIFE
They need the help of an adult to develop healthy habits with the way they spend their time and care for themselves. This way they can become full adults.
-Job. Academic and household chores are rarely a priority for teens. In this sense, they may need rules to ensure their work in these areas. Setting task times tied directly to privileges can motivate your action.
-Time control. Teens often need rules to make the most of their free time. Set schedules regarding the use of electronic devices or computer. Help him better organize his time or know what to do when he ‘has nothing to do’.
-Personal care and hygiene. Although most teens no longer require reminders to brush their teeth , they still tend to need help with personal care. You will need rules and guidance to follow healthy eating, good sleep habits, exercise, and good hygiene. And of course you will have to be a good example!
Here are some examples of rules your teen will need in order to thrive in the real world. You will also need to teach him money management strategies or self-discipline strategies. Of course, working on emotions will always be an addition to each day.