A young child is surprised when he sees his image reflected in a mirror; he looks, turns, gestures and watches the image of the reflection do the same. You are knowing yourself physically. In the same way, as they grow, they forge their own personality and an image of themselves that can be positive or negative.
Self-esteem, that vision we have of ourselves begins to forge from the first months of life. And despite the fact that the characters are sometimes very marked by genes, the environment in which a child grows up and the love or rejection that they receive from their parents and loved ones will influence in one way or another in making them children with high or low self-esteem. The parents have a fundamental role in this learning process and with simple guidelines can get small children happy and secure themselves.
LOVE AND AFFECTION TO BUILD TRUST IN AN UNKNOWN WORLD
The first and easiest thing is to transmit all the love and affection to a newborn baby . The warmth of a hug, a kiss or a kind word will help to create a friendly environment for the little one who does not know the world he has just arrived.
LOVE AND AFFECTION, FUNDAMENTAL
CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM OF THE ENVIRONMENT, NOT THE PERSON
That children are loved does not mean that they do not have to be scolded or ugly some behavior. But when a child is reprimanded, the criticism must be focused on the fact itself and not on the person. If a child has left a room full of toys and has collected them for us, it is better to emphasize that the room is a mess than not to say that it is the child who is messy. It is important to correct behaviors, not people .
Negative situations must also be given a way out and not simply exposed. It is important to give solutions or guidelines so that children see that the problems can be solved and promptly dismiss bad behavior.
In this sense, it is necessary for children to make mistakes, to make mistakes, always within safe parameters for them , so that by themselves they learn to overcome themselves and find a positive way out of conflictive or negative situations.
If a child sets a goal that he will not be able to achieve or his parents ask him for unattainable short-term goals, it is more than likely that the little one will invade a feeling of frustration . Each child, depending on their age and abilities, can achieve goals that are not always the same for everyone.
LEARN TO LIVE WITH THE GOOD AND THE BAD
ERRORS THAT MAKE YOU GROW
Children have to learn to live with the good and the bad in life ; with success and failure. One of the feelings that a child experiences the most throughout his short life is frustration at not getting what he wants. Teaching him to manage and channel that frustration is necessary for his self-esteem to grow. That is why you have to avoid constant criticism so as not to feed that negative feeling and also avoid indulging in typical phrases such as “I already told you so”.
If a child makes a mistake, you have to make him see that he has indeed made a mistake, but give him tools and solutions to correct the mistake and avoid making it again . Teaching and enhancing the feeling of pity without finding a way out other than regret will enhance a negative attitude towards life.
Although children must be encouraged, motivated and surrounded by positive feelings, excessive praise, sometimes unnecessary, can cause the opposite effect and enhance attitudes of arrogance and arrogance. A child is not always going to be the best, the one who always wins, the smartest and the first in the class. A child has to learn that he can also make mistakes, fall and make mistakes. If parents are constantly praising their child for just that, for being their child, they are drawing a self-centered reality that can lead to further frustration in the future.
Self-esteem is very important for the positive personal growth of the little ones, so that they can prepare adequately to live in society, compete healthily and improve themselves. The parents have to help their children build a personality based on positivism and love , positive stimulation and constant accompaniment can get children to enjoy positive self – esteem and, ultimately, be happy.