Your child may have decided to cheat in school or on a test and you will need to know what the main reason is. Perhaps it is because he is afraid of your retaliation, because he does not want to seem like the ‘fool’ of the class, because if he fails he will do it in the subject and it will have consequences, because he does not know how to study, because he has to improve the organization of the study to realize that that it is not necessary to copy to pass an exam … the reasons can be many and you should know what motivates your child to cheat on an exam.
Children may not fully understand what is okay and what is not okay in the academic year. An elementary school student might think that it is okay to copy word-for-word from an encyclopedia, and a sixth grader might think that it is okay to copy another student’s work in a group setting. In these situations, discipline is not necessarily the most important reaction. Instead, it is important to guide your child through these sometimes difficult circumstances, to grasp the difference between collaborating, paraphrasing, and copying or plagiarism.
New technologies can also make children think that copying is okay. Is it okay for your child to use the Internet to find the answers to his homework instead of his textbook? You will have to talk to the teacher to answer this, find out how he gives the lessons in class and if the approach he gives is to look for things online.
When a student has too many things to do, such as sports practices , music lessons, social obligations, housework, and more, they may feel pressure to cut corners somewhere, and that could manifest itself in cheating at school.
Also students who worry too much about bringing perfect notes home to avoid retaliation may also try to copy. You may also tell other colleagues to do their work for you because you are unsure that they could do it wrong or simply because they don’t feel like doing it.
You need to talk to your child in any of these circumstances and make it clear that copying is not right, and that he is not only fooling others, he is also fooling himself. You need to evaluate your relationship with your child to make sure you are not putting too much pressure on him to succeed.
There are children who are not motivated in the studies and prefer to copy than to make an effort because they do not find meaning in the study but they do not want to have the negative consequences of failing an exam or having bad grades . He thinks that he does not want to waste time studying or doing homework and prefers to copy to go faster and finish earlier.
If your child is not motivated to have good grades honestly, you can offer some tangible rewards to motivate him. Make a table of rewards for him to do his homework, to study for the exams, for the good results … It could be to buy time with electronic games, to go out to a special place as a family, etc.
You may also be giving in to peer pressure. There is a possibility that your child is not the one who is copying someone else’s work, she could be the one who is lending her own homework. If this is the case, she is just as guilty as the child on the receiving end. If your child is not able to say no to these requests, it is clear that he needs to work on social skills to resist peer pressure.
Talk to your child about how they should say no the next time someone else asks them to do their work or tries to cheat on their knowledge test. He can be a good friend without others trying to take advantage of him. If others try to take advantage of him by jeopardizing his academic grades, it is clear that the others are not good friends.