What to do if your child has problems at school
If you’ve been called from school saying your child is in trouble … here’s what you can do about it.
Even the best-behaved kids sometimes get into trouble at school . If your child is five or fifteen years old, what do you do when you find out that your child did something wrong at school? How do you, as a parent, handle the situation and discuss it with a challenging child? Or a quiet and shy child? Or a repentant child?
Here are some tips that parents can do after learning that their child is having problems at school.
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RESPECT EDUCATORS WHO TELL YOU WHAT YOUR CHILD HAS DONE
At all levels of education, parents should be respectful of school personnel who communicate regarding a child’s misbehavior. Parents often want to jump to the defense of their children without listening to all sides of the situation … But it is necessary to remain calm . It doesn’t matter how old your child is when you hear about “the incident.” Ideally, follow these steps:
- First, listen to what the school has to say about the incident, assuring them that you will speak with your child.
- Then listen to your child with an open mind too , listen to what he has to say.
- If your child immediately becomes defensive, regardless of the parent’s relationship with their child or the parent’s feelings about the incident, the parent should approach the discussion with their child in a calm and non-accusatory manner . If a parent starts by accusing a child, they will be more likely to become defensive.
- Finally, you have to create a plan to remedy the situation, repairing the possible damage that occurred during the bad behavior, or redoing a task or project.
If these behaviors continue, it is important to arrange a meeting with the school , and your child (depending on his age) is important, so that you, as a parent, can find the root cause of these bad behaviors. If the school imposes a consequence for misbehavior, it is not necessary to provide a second consequence at home.
SLOW DOWN THE BEHAVIOR
Talk to your child often about his day at school to understand his attitude toward peers or academics. Management of parent misbehavior is relatively consistent, but the causes and consequences of misbehavior will vary by age.
When there is a problem in the classroom, your child is likely to be very excited about the situation. It can be difficult to keep your own emotion out of the situation, but remember, the teacher has your child’s best interests and wants to work to find the best solution. Parents need to coordinate with teachers to solve the problem in the best possible way.
HOW TO APPROACH THE SITUATION AS A GOOD TEAM
To approach the situation as a team between parents and educational professionals it is a good idea to follow the following tips;
- Ask your child about possible solutions to help you play an active role in problem solving.
- Remember that the teacher can help your child implement the solutions in the classroom and you can intervene if your child needs support. Keep communication open with your child and his teacher to help everyone stay on track and ensure that solutions are effective.
FORTIFY THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE TEACHER
If you want things to go better, the ideal is that you connect with your child’s teacher so that you feel comfortable with each other when it comes to talking about your child. But how to achieve this? Children should have a good relationship with at least one friend (optimally) and their teacher, in that order.
The younger the child, the more important the relationship with his teacher . The reason is to help the child with the ongoing process of separation that continues beyond preschool and into the early elementary years. As your child matures, he should be prepared for life in middle and high school, college, and adult life, which have requirements that pertain to higher authority figures. Parents need to make a conscious effort to get along with teachers and for children to do so as well.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.