Talking about sex with your parents is not easy . But when you decide that you are interested in learning more about birth control, your mother can be a valuable source of information and support. Starting the conversation is difficult, but being able to talk about difficult topics with your mother is important.
Don’t be afraid to bring up the subject of birth control with your mother. You’ve probably been looking forward to the conversation as you approach adulthood, and if you can bring it up sensibly and openly, you can make a decision together about what’s best for you. Here we are going to give you advice if you are a teenager or young person and want to talk with your mother or father about which contraceptive method is best for you. You will see that it is not as complicated as it seems and that, once you do it, it will be the best you could have done.
PREPARED YOUR FEELINGS
The first steps will be to prepare your feelings and thoughts before discussing the birth control that works best for you with your mother or father . Try to stay calm and in control when talking about these topics. Think that it is for your good and that your parents will always want the best for you.
SPEAK SEPARATELY FIRST
Ideally, you should approach your mother to discuss the issue when she is alone. It may be easier for you to talk to one parent at a time about a sensitive topic like birth control. Do it with your mother or father separately, later, when you have already discussed the issue with the two separately, you can discuss it with the two together.
CHOOSE THE RIGHT MOMENT
Choose your moment carefully . Do not approach your mother to discuss birth control when she is busy, stressed, or upset. Talk to her when things are quiet and you are both in a comfortable environment, like home.
GIVE IT TIME
You will have to give your mother or father time to prepare as well. Tell her you’d like to talk to her about birth control when she’s ready. This gives you time to research and prepare your own thoughts on the topic before your conversation.
TELL HIM IF YOU ARE NERVOUS
Let your mother or father know if you feel nervous about discussing birth control with her. You will have to be honest and direct about your feelings. By letting you see how seriously you are considering birth control, it shows her that you are being mature and that you are making an informed decision.
TELL HIM TO TAKE YOU TO SEE A GYNECOLOGIST
Ask your mother to take you to see a gynecologist . A doctor can talk to you specifically about all birth control options and give you vital information on how to practice safe sex. Also, if you have doubts that your mother cannot solve for you, the doctor will do it without problems.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS
Don’t be afraid to ask specific questions. If your mom is being too general or you don’t understand what she’s talking about, ask her to be more direct. Tell him if you are looking for specific advice on different types of birth control, such as condoms and prescription birth control pills.
WHAT IF YOUR MOTHER DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT?
If your mother doesn’t want to discuss sex with you or the contraceptive methods that interest you, try talking to another family member, such as your father, an aunt, or someone else you feel comfortable talking about sex and these specific topics.
If you need birth control and your mother is uncooperative, you can see a doctor on your own , even if you are under 18 years old. Make an appointment with a gynecologist to discuss your options.