Teach your children to deal with disputes by example
Your example will always be the best teacher for your children to learn to deal with disputes with other people.
Disputes and differences between people is common, but it is necessary for parents to always be a good example for their children so that they learn to handle this type of conflict in the future. One way to do this is when you have a dispute with neighbors, because this happens is part of life … most of these conflicts do not go beyond a minor annoyance.
When there are problems with the neighbors, your children should see how you breathe deeply and endure it because in most cases it is just a quirk or a matter of personal opinion. Bullying, on the other hand, is a serious problem. If things escalate to the point where you feel intimidated or would rather walk the other way than risk seeing your neighbor, it might be time to do something about it … and let your kids know what they should do in the in case that ever happens to them. Next we are going to give you the tools so that you can deal with neighborhood conflicts and that your children learn the best way to do it from you.
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WHAT’S THE MATTER? IDENTIFY THE CAUSE
Identify the cause . Although your neighbor has no right to cause you, he may feel justified due to a current problem or conflict with you. If you can solve the problem, you can work to find a solution and perhaps stop the bullying and harassment that you are experiencing.
TALK TO THE NEIGHBOR
Have a chat with the neighbor. Summarize the problem and ask questions if you are not sure what is going on. Be specific about what is bothering you and ask if there is anything he wants to say or ask … even if you can do something to remedy what is happening. You should be calm but be firm. Indicate that you do not want that situation to continue, not only for you, but also for your families . In this way you can talk to find a solution to what is happening.
TRY TO REACH AN AGREEMENT
Try to come to an agreement. If he is harassing you for no reason, do not move and accept something that you consider unfair or threatening. Try to understand your neighbor’s position and offer an alternative if their requests seem unreasonable. Try to reach a middle ground that solves the problem.
PUT THINGS IN WRITING
If the friendly conversation fails, write a formal letter detailing the problem and what cannot be tolerated. If your neighbor breaks a law tell him why this is not acceptable. Gather the signatures of other neighbors if the problem is something that affects others as well. You will have to go one step further to try to solve the problem if words and good intentions are not enough.
NEIGHBOR MEDIATORS
You can look to a neighborhood or community mediator to find a neutral third party to help you communicate effectively with your neighbor. Mediators can work for cheap fees, but remember that you are not a lawyer so they will not be able to control regulations and legal matters. They will help you open lines of communication and will try to find a solution that does not involve the authorities.
TO CALL THE POLICE
Call the police or contact the court system only as a last resort or if bullying is out of control or you feel you are in danger. If you take the case to court, you may be redirected to medication as well. But at this point your neighbor may be very resentful of you and less open to finding the solution. Small claims court can only help if there is money or property is in trouble … Although the resolution of the dispute will always depend on the parties involved.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.