Teach your child to have “slide skin”
Do you know what it means to have “waterslide skin”? Sometimes it is the best solution to hurtful words.
A tough exterior can help children resist many of the hurtful exchanges and emotional spikes that are an unfortunate fact of life. Although words can hurt and hurt , you can help a child develop waterslide skin. What does it mean to have “waterslide skin”? With this type of “skin” you will be instilling a stronger self-esteem in your child so that he has an armor towards the hurtful comments of others, because when something is said to affect him, he will slide down his skin like a slide!
This waterslide skin can protect against emotional and malicious spikes and thorns that could penetrate the heart and bruise the psyche.
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INFUSE STRONG SELF-ESTEEM
Infuse your child with strong self-esteem and positive self-concept to harden their emotional armor and empower their waterslide skin. People with strong self-esteem generally feel valued and equal to other people, which can be an ideal basis for this strategy to work.
Look at their strengths, abilities, and positive traits and comment on these attributes. When people have a positive self-esteem, believing in their abilities and virtues, the mean actions and the words of other people will have less effect on them. Get in the habit of providing positive feedback on your child’s characteristics as often as possible to build this tough exterior.
DO ACTIVITIES TO BOOST SELF-ESTEEM
Organize an activity that will help build self-esteem. Use affirmations to build self-esteem in children. Try a game of “finish the sentence” by throwing various sentence starters at the players and inviting everyone to take turns finishing the sentences. Include statements like, “I know how …” and “I’m a good friend because …” and encourage children to think of positive traits and characteristics about themselves.
THAT EMPATHY IS NOT LACKING
Provide empathy for your child when words or actions hurt. By accepting and understanding your child’s hurt feelings , you validate them and help them feel understood. You could say, “Yeah, it seems like that hurt your feelings. I don’t want to be called by that name either.”
Ask yourself out loud with your child about the other child’s motivations for doing emotional harm. Help your child realize that people often try to hurt others because of negative or unpleasant feelings or problems about themselves. Explain to your child that if someone is feeling sad, angry, or jealous, they might lash out at someone to hurt them because they are reacting to their own negative feelings .
It costs your child that in this circumstance, the unhappy child’s actions have more to do with his own feelings than anything your child has done to provoke the actions.
BRAINSTORMING FOR EFFECTIVE RESPONSES
Brainstorm effective responses for your child to use when someone else says or does something that hurts or bothers them . For example, your child might say something like, “I think you’re wrong and words can’t hurt me” to a child who says something hurtful. Through role- play scenarios , you give your child positive ammunition to deflect the hurtful pangs. Practice and play with your child frequently, once or twice a week, to make these responses a habit you won’t have to think about.
Teach your child to always respond compassionately , even when others seek to hurt him. When a person deviates and protects himself without an offensive response, it is possible to maintain a positive attitude without harming others. Overcoming hurtful comments and actions helps a child set a positive example, treating others the way they want to be treated.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.