Household defects can be a source of discussion in any family with teenagers. Maybe your teenager spends the day saying things like: “I’ll do it later” or “I don’t want to do it” … you may want to make your children more motivated to do things and stop complaining about one once and for all.
Scolding your teenager into doing things is not a good idea. Constant reminders should also not be used because it will make you less motivated and less accountable in both the short and long term. Maybe you forget to take out the trash or don’t tidy up your bedroom because you are “too busy” with other things.
Chores are essential in children’s lives and homework will teach them that they can and should be more responsible. Do not miss the following tips to make your teenager more responsible and do his assigned tasks at home without complaining.
ASSIGN SPECIFIC TASKS AHEAD OF TIME
Asking your child to do a spontaneous task can lead to an argument. If you see him watching television on Saturday morning and suddenly ask, “Can you clean the garage now?” You are likely to encounter extreme resistance.
When possible, make your expectation clear ahead of time . Assign regular tasks that you hope to complete on a routine basis, like emptying the dishwasher and cleaning the bathroom. Make spontaneous requests to complete additional tasks as infrequently as possible.
OFFER SOME FLEXIBILITY
The teenage years are the perfect time to learn valuable life skills, such as self-discipline. Offering a little flexibility and freedom around tasks gives your teen a chance to practice these skills. Tell your teen that they can use electronics or enjoy other privileges after homework is done.
Then let him decide when to do things. You will learn to manage your time better when you are able to make small decisions on your own.
While some parents want to pay pay for all chores, others think that children need to participate and help without the expectation of being paid … at least, with the tasks and responsibilities that fall to their children on a daily basis.
You can consider paying your child for the extra chores that he does, that is, for those tasks that you would pay someone for or hire someone outside your family to do them. Taking care of younger siblings, mowing the lawn or cleaning the windows can be examples of extra tasks to receive money in return. Cleaning the room, doing the dishes, and helping with meals are just part of being responsible.
It is necessary for your child to know that if he does not do the tasks assigned to him, he could have consequences for it. You can stop earning that money in the form of weekly pay or take away privileges … if you decide not to do your tasks, you simply carry out the consequences without giving you any extra reminders, you must be responsible for the decisions you make.
DON’T BUY EVERYTHING FROM YOUR TEENAGER
If you buy everything he asks of you, or grant him unlimited privileges, regardless of the amount of work he does, you will not be motivating him to do his tasks. It covers her basic needs, but don’t give her spending money or extra privileges just because she asks for them.
A SINGLE REMINDER
The goal is for your child to be able to complete all their homework without the need for reminders. After all, you won’t be there to tell her everything to do when she’s 30 or when she lives outside of the family home. If he needs a reminder, give it to him, but no more.
You can offer a reminder to remind him of the consequences, for example: “If you clean the bathroom tomorrow you will have your electronic device, otherwise you will not have it.” If they don’t want to do the homework, you will have to move on with the consequence. Don’t scold him, don’t embarrass him either, it doesn’t make sense. Just make it clear to him it is he who chooses to do things well to keep his privileges or not to do things well, and lose them.