Consequences for teens if they don’t come home on time
If your child breaks the curfew and does not return home on time … These are the consequences that you should apply.
The curfew is essential to work responsibility and respect for the family in adolescents, but it is also necessary that they comply with it for their safety and peace of mind. Establishing a clear curfew is a helpful way to balance your teen’s need for freedom with your responsibility to make sure they are safe. Getting home on time is a good way for your child to show you that he can behave responsibly .
Most teens break curfew at least once or twice … to test the limits. How you respond to this situation will make a big difference in what happens next. If your child comes home late, don’t yell at him … it’s not worth it. Also, don’t give him a long talk about how worried you were or that something fatal could have happened to him. Instead, your child must learn through consequences that teach him life lessons.
Next, you will learn the most effective ways to respond when your teenager comes home late, ignoring the curfew that you have established.
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TEMPORARILY SHORTEN THE TIME TO GO HOME
If your child comes home 20 minutes late, he will have to come back 20 minutes early for a whole week. It is a logical consequence that will help you remember the importance of being home on time. This will be especially effective if your teen is less than an hour late for curfew and if it is a rare infraction. If he shows you that he is responsible for complying with the curfew for a week, he can go back to his normal schedule.
RESTRICTIONS
If your teen comes home more than an hour late or if he breaks curfew several times, he may need other types of restraints to help him learn from his mistakes. Tell her that she won’t be spending time with her friends on the weekend, or take away her electronics for a specific time.
It is important that you avoid taking away too many privileges for too long. Restricting access to electronics for a month, for example, will demotivate your child and may lead to rebellion, as your teenager will stop trying to regain privileges …
SOLVE PROBLEMS TOGETHER
If your teenager ignores curfew, you can turn it into an opportunity to teach him to be more responsible. You can help him solve problems about how he can get home in the future within the allotted time .
For example, you can set an alarm on your phone 30 minutes before curfew to let you know the time. The alarm can remind you that it is time to start heading home. Instead of texting her to remind her to come home, that alarm could help her make a good decision on her own … without her having to depend on you all the time.
You can ask him questions to work on his critical thinking, for example: “What can you do to make sure you get home on time?” Give your teenager the opportunity to find solutions on his own. If you have trouble finding solutions, brainstorming may be a good solution. It is also a good idea to talk about what to do if you run into problems. Make it clear that you don’t want him to risk getting home 30 seconds before curfew , if it’s justified, nothing happens because he arrives a few minutes later. In these cases, he must send you a message or call you to let you know … but you must make it clear that this is only accepted in exceptional circumstances.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.