Help your teenager break up with his partner in a healthy way

When a teenager wants to break up with his partner, it can be easy for him to end up in the most ‘phantom’ way there is; abruptly leaving all communication removing that person from your life without giving further explanations. This is not the best way to do it and it is necessary to teach adolescents what are the healthiest ways to deal with these types of situations.

It is necessary to teach them to do it correctly, above all, because it is a way to learn to take responsibility for their actions and also to be able to correctly face the various conflict situations that they may encounter in life. Instead of avoiding them or looking elsewhere.

BREAKING TOXIC

When a teenager breaks up with his partner in a ‘ghostly’ way by stopping all communication with the other person, he is doing it in a toxic way. This trend is due, in large part, to the current generation of teens’ fascination with doing everything through text messages and social media, including early and late relationships.

Of course, being a “ghost” is easier for the “ghost” than it is for the person you break up with, because the “ghost” avoids the painful process of providing an explanation for the breakup. The other part of the couple, on the other hand, constantly checks their phone, terribly distraught and confused about a sudden breakup coupled with the lack of an explanation.

These types of endings in relationships occur in all age groups, not only in adolescents … adults with fear of facing their actions can also carry out this type of rupture, something cowardly. This is common since social networks appeared.

It is necessary to teach adolescents to be responsible for their actions and not to be ‘ghosts’ when it comes to ending their relationships. It is important to teach them to be sensitive and empathetic in all relationships. To achieve this, do not miss the following tips,

EASY AND RESPONSIBLE ARE NOT SYNONYMOUS

The fact that it is easy to end a relationship by cutting off communication abruptly does not mean that it is the best way to do it. That something is easy is not synonymous with that it is something responsible. Teens must learn to be kind and responsible when they break up, respecting the other person’s feelings.

If they are not ready to do that, then perhaps they are not ready for these types of relationships. There are all kinds of variations on how to end a relationship that doesn’t involve this kind of toxic behavior .  Talk to your children about some possible ways to end a relationship in the most delicate way possible – they may not be easy, but they are far more admirable than leaving someone quietly. Some of these ways are to tell you things like:

• • I think our relationship is not working as it should

• • I think we better be friends

• I don’t want to hurt your feelings because you are important to me, but our connection as a couple is not what I expected from a relationship as a couple.

TURN THE TABLES

Talk to your teens about empathy and what it must feel like to be in someone else’s shoes. Has your adolescent child ever been through this situation before? How would you feel if it was done to you? How do your friends act when it happens to them?

This will be a great time to talk to your children about empathy and assertiveness. Your feelings should be just as important as anyone else’s.

HAVE A WORTHY BREAK

Talk to your children about making a dignified break with their teenage partner . It will be good for your own sense of integrity and also because you will learn to respect the feelings and dignity of the person you are breaking up with.