When we have the first child we begin to live new experiences for which we are not always fully prepared. While he is still a baby, he needs our attention, but he also spends a lot of time sleeping and playing alone. Some even know how to entertain themselves for a long time without the need for their parents to be constantly on the lookout for them.
However, there comes a time when the baby grows, develops and becomes a child. This occurs, approximately, at 2 years of age and progressively your child will begin to need much more attention, he will know how to demand it and he will not stop having tantrums or moving excessively if that is his only way to get it. Therefore, at this age, parents can call it “the terrible 2 years”, since the passage from baby to child will be more abrupt than they expected and they will have to start getting more serious with their education if they do not want me to make them lose head.
At PregDream we tell you what the so-called “terrible 2 years” are and how parents can behave to be able to face it and give their children the best education and care.
WHY DO THEY CALL THEM “THE TERRIBLE 2 YEARS”
Some mothers consider that even before the age of 2 this “terrible” stage begins. And it is that if they have not had more children before, the first will be the one who will teach them what it is to be parents from the beginning. From the moment the child begins to speak, but especially to walk, it will require much more attention and education from the parents. While he was just a baby he was always either lying down or in her arms, so he did not need constant attention.
However, with development, when they start to walk they can get out of the sight of the parents and it is when it is dangerous not to pay attention to them constantly, otherwise it could be a lot of damage. As they learn to speak, children develop the ability to know how to make parents do what they want , just asking for it is sometimes not enough, but you have to cry or have a tantrum for things to turn out as they want. In addition, the typical “No” season begins .
After 2 years is when the child stops being a baby , he is already able to walk quite well and speak to the same or better extent, so he can find new strategies to attract the attention of parents. He is also learning how the world works, he has an irremediable need to touch, put himself in his mouth and run around in order to know everything that surrounds him. As he is not aware of his limits, he needs that parents never leave him unattended , since he could get a lot of damage.
However, it has a lot of energy and will require a great deal of attention and time from the parents. Otherwise, he may start crying and have tantrums in order to achieve his purposes. Parents must understand that this is an essential developmental cap and that they will have to adjust to it for the sake of their children.
HOW TO SURVIVE “THE TERRIBLE 2 YEARS”
The first thing to think about is that it is part of their development and that they do not do things just to make you angry. They have tantrums, like all children in the world, because they are not yet mature enough to see that this is not the only way to solve their problems. As parents, you should arm yourself with patience and not act without thinking twice, since even if the child is still small, the way he is treated can hurt a lot, since he is not yet able to control his emotions .
The fact that he talks a lot does not have to be something only pejorative, he will also learn to create his own stories, tell you what he has done during the day and even remind you how important you are to him.
It will move a lot and require a lot of your attention if you don’t want it to hurt itself. It is important that the child learns at this time to respect you and follow your orders, in this way he will know that he must pay attention to his parents because they care about his well-being and it is more likely that, after “the terrible two years” he will behave more slowly and pay more attention to you when you tell them things.
From the age of two, children are aware that they are not yet like adults and want to look like them, that is why they copy their behaviors and become frustrated when things do not go their way . Our task will be to help them learn, but also to respect if they want to do it alone, because once they succeed they will feel very happy and this will help reinforce their self-esteem. On the contrary, if they do not succeed, they can have big tantrums , which you should mitigate by teaching them that it is not the only way to solve problems, but perhaps asking for help from someone who does know how to solve them so that you can do it only the next time in the future. .
Think that from this moment they will try to become the kings of the house . If they see that every time they have one of these tantrums they totally get your attention, they will not stop having them so that you pay attention to them. It is very important that you remind him that your task is to educate him and that only by behaving well is how he will make you happy and can do things together . So they will be constantly testing you to see how far your limit goes. Don’t fall into the trap of getting nervous yourself and losing your temper , because that way you won’t solve anything.
“The terrible 2 years” may not be so if you learn to control your character so that both of you can learn from the experience, thus making the child’s character more tempered after three years and adapting to his new reality more calm and happy.