5 things you should never say to your children
There are some things you can NEVER say to your children because it would hurt them so much emotionally …
At one point or another, we have all said something to our children that we later regret. But how do our words affect our children? Even if you feel that your children rarely listen to you, you can be sure that they will listen when you say something that you should not … Try not to tell your children things that make them feel unimportant or that may hurt their feelings . Psychological abuse or maltreatment can be as destructive to children’s physical, mental, and emotional health as some types of physical abuse.
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WHY AREN’T YOU LIKE …?
One of the biggest mistakes a parent can make is comparing a child to another person in a negative way. Comparing siblings, for example, is one of the quickest ways to promote rivalry and jealousy between children. The first phrase to avoid is “Why can’t you be like your brother or sister?”
You must treat your children as unique people with their own idiosyncrasies. Second, avoid comparing a child to his friends. “Why can’t you do what Lucas does?” You can think it for yourself but don’t say it out loud. Children are in the process of building their own identity, and their self-esteem is easily damaged when they don’t feel good about themselves. Third, avoid comparing your child to you or his other parent. The question “Why can’t you be more like me or Dad?” it quickly gives the child the feeling that he is not good enough.
TELL HIM TO LEAVE THE PLACE
Parents can tell their children to leave when they are tired, upset, distracted, or busy. It is normal that sometimes you feel the need to keep your children away from you, but instead of saying it bluntly, tell them things the way you would like them to say to you: “I need to be alone for a while, can you go to play in your bedroom and then spend time together? ”
SHUT
Children need to feel that their ideas are important. Instead of telling him to shut up that he’s talking too much and your head hurts , you can say something like, “I’m interested in this conversation. Let’s talk over dinner.
Also, if you say things like that you do not care, it will imply that you do not value the thoughts or feelings of your children. If you’ve cooked a steak for dinner and they say you don’t like it, you may be frustrated. Tell your child that the family is eating meat tonight, and commit to asking what they will prefer to eat tomorrow.
STOP BEING A CRYBABY
This would fall into the category of disparagement. Sometimes parents make fun of their children and it is wrong, especially when the teasing is hurtful or condescending . Telling your children, for example, to stop being a crybaby will feel belittled. Children don’t want to be seen as more “babies” than they are.
Children can’t always control their emotions , and they shouldn’t be criticized for that … if anything, it’s your job to help them understand how they feel. Making children feel worse about themselves will not help them develop self-control or make them tougher … it will make them more vulnerable.
YOU ARE A STUPID
In the same way that we tell our children not to insult other people, we should not insult them for anything in the world. If your child says something reckless, don’t call him silly or clumsy. Avoid using words like “stupid,” “brat,” or even “bad boy.” Children internalize these insults. Name calling is not likely to help a child improve negative behavior. Instead, keep in mind that when a child misbehaves, you must learn to separate the behavior from the child’s personality.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.