If you receive the visit of friends without children, it is better that you save yourself some details of being parents. Your friends who are parents will understand you, but they will not. They will not understand you, nor is it that they are really interested in your life as a father or mother, nor if your children have spent the night with snot or diarrhea. They may nod their heads as you explain things about your children, but you feel like they really don’t care about what you’re telling them.
As a parent, your children alter your life in many ways, but you forget that not everyone around you is dazzled, in love, or impressed by your children. So, from now on you better keep in mind some things that you better not say when you have friends without children in front of you.
DETAILS OF THE PROGRESS OF THE DIAPERING
Maybe your child is learning to go to the toilet by himself and that fills you with joy and satisfaction, diapers are over! But to your friend without children, it directly does not matter to him. It is likely that the day your friends stop changing diapers during the day and night, they will also want to run and shout it from the rooftops … But right now it is not the case.
He does not want to see photos of your children sitting on the potty, and in the future, it is unlikely that your children want you to have shown those intimate photos to anyone (better if you do not upload them to any social network …). Although the process of starting to walk or talk can be tender and they may pay more attention, to give up diapers is to stop pooping.
ASK WHEN THEY WILL HAVE CHILDREN
There are people who go through very difficult struggles to become parents and this question can be heartbreaking for them. It will be even worse if the couple has experienced a miscarriage , which this question may delve further into the emotional pain they feel from this.
It is not your fault that you did not know, but unless that person is very close to you, it is best not to ask these types of questions. If they want to have children or if they are expecting and you are important to that couple, they will tell you.
ANYTHING THAT INVOLVES A: HOW LUCKY ARE YOU TO HAVE TIME TO …
Following the same point above, perhaps the person desperately wants children and is struggling and cannot be comforted by the fact that they still have time to enjoy. Or maybe you’re just a very busy person, with a demanding job, bills to pay, endless responsibilities, a dog, a cat, a goldfish, family members to take care of, etc.
Don’t assume that that person’s life is better than yours because they don’t have children and they have more ‘free’ time than you. In fact, even if you have less time and more fatigue, wouldn’t you trade your children for anything in the world? So that time is not really meaningful to you either.
SAY THINGS LIKE: ‘I DIDN’T UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF LIFE UNTIL I HAD CHILDREN’
Yes, becoming a parent can be the most profound thing that has ever happened in your life. It gives you a sense of purpose and meaning that you may not have realized before. But not all lives require the same purpose and the same meaning. Your friend could get pleasure, happiness, meaning, nirvana, etc., by following a passion of his own. It is quite offensive to imply that unless you have children, your life does not have the same value.
The main point in all of this is to try to be sensitive. Also, when your friend gives you their time because they want to see you, instead of talking about parenthood and motherhood, talk about things that motivate you both … at least, if you want to maintain that friendship!