Every parent in the world wants their children to grow up healthy and strong , both physically and emotionally, to be self-confident and safe at home. Perhaps you have ever noticed how your child has become nervous in the presence of other people, there may be many reasons for this antisocial behavior that can be observed in children. The most obvious reason when a child does not want to interact with others is always associated with low self-esteem.
In today’s article I want to talk to you about some tips so that you can help your child to have greater and better self-esteem . It is very necessary to be able to have a good social and emotional development , but it is built with the day to day and parents have a great role in the self-esteem of their children.
If you ignore the signals that your child gives you that clearly tells you that he has low self-esteem, then your child will become an introvert and will not want to interact with people, only with those selected by him. Do not miss each of the tips below to improve your children’s self-esteem from now on.
1. Let the kids be a part of making the rules at home
This will make them feel good and it will be interesting for them to fulfill them, they will want to improve little by little. Life at home will be more harmonious and your child will feel part of the rules that must be met by all, he will feel more confidence in himself.
2. Let your son or daughter feel important
It allows him to participate in decision-making (in things he can participate in) such as choosing what he wants to eat that day or what clothes he wants to wear in the morning. This will give you security at home.
3. Never compare him with other children
Give it the security it needs with your confidence. Your child is unique and wonderful.
4. Show him he has skills
If your child feels inferior to another person, it is necessary to talk about his abilities and show him that he has them. Think of an area where he has good skills and empower him, so he will feel great self-confidence.
5. Set achievable goals
Set realistic goals that your child can achieve, and make them difficult as he reaches them.
6. Help him reach his goals
Appreciate when your child achieves the objectives and if he has difficulty reaching his goals, help him achieve it but without doing things for him.
7. Take an interest in him or her
Show interest in everything he does and never make fun of his work or his ability. Do not make him feel ashamed for something he has done or what he has tried.
8. Give your child responsibilities
Allow him to do age-appropriate tasks (always with safety in mind). If you make a mistake or do it wrong, nothing happens, you are taught again calmly and patiently, so you can learn from mistakes and improve for the future.
9. Don’t praise your son, appreciate what he does
Better to say things like. “I like how you have helped at home” to say something like: “You are smart.” The child needs to know what he has done well in a concrete way, so that he can repeat the behavior in the future.
10. Allow them to make mistakes and let them be your best teachers
Guide him through the process and if he makes a mistake, let him see that it is part of the improvement process. Let your child make decisions and carry them out, interfere with his work only when he is doing something destructive or dangerous.
11. Don’t do it for him or her
If your child feels that he is unable to do something that is appropriate for his age, don’t do it for him. Instead, let it try several times until it is successful. So you can feel proud and feel the satisfaction of having achieved something well done for yourself.
12. Listen to him
Listen to everything your child has to say to you even if it seems silly. They are nothing nonsense for him, if explaining it to you is important and you must take it into account. Stop what you are doing and enjoy what he is wanting to share with you. That way it will feel important.
13. Teach your child to be useful and to feel capable of doing things
Remember that it is important to give him responsibilities to help at home such as making the beds, cleaning the dust, helping to put the washing machine, picking up his toys, ordering the books, etc. When children are given responsibilities, they are being taught to do things and they will feel useful and important in the family.
14. Avoid comparing yourself with others
When your son compares himself with others, it is good to make him see that everyone is important and that what he is good at something, another does not have to be and vice versa.
15. Share your emotions and feelings every day
Talking openly about what is happening to you, being assertive and having open communication is very important for children to feel valued and respected. Establish rules and limits at home that are appropriate for them, that they feel involved and also, be flexible according to their needs and interests.
IT’S A DAILY JOB
These methods are very important to take into account every day of your life at home to enhance your self-esteem and have more dignity. Children with good self-esteem will feel more confident and able to cope with whatever obstacles arise.
When a child has low self-esteem and even taking these points into account, you see that he does not improve or that you do not feel capable of helping him to feel better, it will be necessary to go to a professional so that he can give you the necessary indications and be able to improve during the day a day. Children are innocent beings who need the guidance of their parents , but not only so that they can be shown the way, but also so that they realize that they can achieve what they want in their life as long as they really want to do it. A child with good self-esteem will know where his limits are and where he can walk, with his head held high!