When you start a relationship, the last thing you think about is separation. The same thing happens when you marry who is supposed to be someone you love very much, that when you do, the last thing you think about is divorce. But sometimes, life begins to change and people’s feelings can also change because of different experiences. Love does not always last forever and when this happens and you have children, very difficult decisions will have to be made for everyone, but necessary for the good in the long term.
When children feel that they are in the middle of a divorce, that is when problems come almost without realizing it. Divorce is a transition that will always be difficult for both adults, and especially for children. Divorce is like a reset button in the life of the couple and the children. But you must choose to press the reset button to do it in a good way or in a more negative way.
If you reset that button for good, then things don’t have to go wrong. Not much less. It does not matter if the relationship with your ex partner is not entirely good, you should think about yourself and the happiness of your children. Work the divorce so that the children come out well at all times and above all, that you can have a friendly or at least cordial relationship with your ex-partner, for the sake of the children. And if it is not possible, unless the children do not know while they are small your negative feelings towards your ex partner.
But how can a divorce make you a better or a worse parent?
BE A BETTER PARENT AFTER DIVORCE
You are happier
When a marriage is just because it works well and living relative is neither good nor adequate. The fights, the crying, ignoring the behaviors or the pitched battles at home, are over. Children know when something is wrong and what is happening, and they inappropriately feel that they are responsible for what happens. And it is not like that. When a couple is not going well and there is no solution, then it will be time to put an end and work for your own happiness and that of your children. The fights are behind you and you must work to be a better version of yourself.
You feel more motivated
You may feel more motivated to do better, both for your children and for yourself. If you feel guilty about something that happened in the past, don’t focus on what happened. What done is done. You should only focus on how to improve situations for the future to improve as a person and that your children have a good example.
Every minute can be amazing
Being divorced, you will not see your children as much as you would like, so it is more than likely that you want the time you spend with them to be incredible. You enjoy more time with your children and even if you do not see your friends when you are with your children, you do not care because they are and will be the pillar of your life. Even housework can take a backseat as when the kids are with your ex, you will have more time to do all of that. When you are with your children, only one thing matters: your children.
More time for you
Although you really would like to be 365 days a year with your children, you can’t help but think that sometimes, a break is not bad at all. You know that your children are well cared for by your ex and therefore, you can rest easy and have time for yourself. Talk to your children every day so they know that you miss them, but you can also focus on other things in your life such as work , home, your friends, family, etc.