Why Your Children Need Good Discipline
Good discipline is necessary for the education of your children, for this reason, it is essential that you know what are the benefits that they will bring.
Discipline does not mean that your children are afraid of you, nor does it mean that their life is full of punishment. Discipline must ensure that children acquire the necessary skills so that when they grow up, they become responsible adults. There are many types of discipline and many approaches to parenting. Ultimately, the type of discipline used offers children many benefits, as long as it is proper discipline.
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CHILDREN NEED DISCIPLINE TO FEEL SAFE
As if that were not enough, good discipline helps children manage anxiety. Believe it or not, they need rules and limits to feel safe. But of course, these rules and limits must be designed to be able to respect their person and that they are also protagonists of their responsibilities.
Children often test limits just to unconsciously make sure that their caregivers can keep them safe. When adults offer children positive and negative consequences for young children, they grow and learn. On the other hand, children who have overly permissive parents tend to have anxiety because they must make decisions that correspond to adults. The lack of guidance and the absence of leadership makes them feel really insecure.
DISCIPLINE TEACHES CHILDREN TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS
Good discipline helps children make good decisions in the future. For example, when a child loses his privileges, learn to make a better decision for the next time. This type of proper discipline teaches children alternative ways to meet their own needs.
Parents should teach their children correct problem-solving skills, impulse control, and self-regulation skills from good discipline. For this, it is necessary to learn to distinguish the difference between consequences and punishments (in consequences, children feel that they have control of their decisions and are more likely to be able to change correctly, and punishments are felt as something imposed and therefore not they will modify their behavior and also feel resentment). That is, with the consequences children learn from their mistakes and with the punishments they only feel that their parents are being ‘mean’ to them.
DISCIPLINE TEACHES YOU TO UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN EMOTIONS
When a child reflects after misbehavior, he is learning skills that will help him better handle the situation in the future. In addition, with good discipline children also learn to better tolerate tolerance for frustration. Ignoring bad behavior also teaches children something negative, that such behavior is socially appropriate.
In addition to all of the above, discipline also has a very important goal that should not be overlooked: it keeps children safe. This includes that children need rules such as looking both ways to cross the street, there should be consequences whenever your child does not follow the proper safety rules.
The discipline must also address other health risks, such as preventing obesity and taking care of good nutrition. If you allow your child to eat as much as he wants, he is likely to experience serious health problems in the future. It’s important to set healthy boundaries and offer education to help your child learn to make healthy choices.
If you want your child to stop doing something, don’t just give him the order, tell him why you give him the order so that he understands and makes the right decision. For example, instead of saying: ‘stop jumping now’, the ideal is to say: ‘stop jumping on the bed because you can fall and hurt your head. Is not safe’.
Dr. Tabriella Perivolaris, Sara's mother and fan of fashion, beauty, motherhood, among others, about the female universe. Since 2018 she has been working as a copywriter, always bringing to her articles a little of her experience and experience as a mother and woman.