All the consequences that there may be in parenting by a helicopter parent are negative. Both in the short and long term. Parents should refrain from rescuing their child from all the little mistakes or failures that appear in life. They need to allow them to fail on their own. Parents need to realize that it is important for their child’s character to develop strong and firm. And this is achieved by allowing the natural consequences of mistakes.
If parents rescue their children from all the little failures, then what will happen when they have a big failure (like dropping out of college or being fired from their first job) and the parents are not by their side to solve their problems? This adult or young adult will become depressed and have serious anxiety problems because he will feel that he is not able to do things for himself. You will feel incapable.
YOU MUST ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN TO FAIL
Parents should allow their children to fail, make mistakes, get frustrated … and guide them with strategies so that next time, they will be able to do things a little better. A parent can help you deal with failures in ways that are right and healthy for both of you. Thus, children will learn to do things better and in a different way, once they know what has been the mistake made previously.
When developing good coping skills, parents need to be there to provide support. This means that parents are there to listen to their children when they experience failure, abuse, or are simply dealing with a difficult situation.
ENHANCE COPING SKILLS
A good way to deal with these things is to verbalize things and use “I feel” statements. Parents can help their child develop coping skills by encouraging their child to express his feelings about the situation at hand using “I feel” statements.
Using this method helps children take responsibility for their actions in the situation instead of blaming others and avoiding their share of responsibility.
IMPROVE COMMUNICATION TO LEARN BETTER
It is essential to help children to open up and speak openly. This is key to helping them to solve problems and to know how to deal with a specific situation. They can also learn to solve problems by looking for different solutions to the same conflict and choosing the most appropriate one.
It can be difficult for a parent to watch their child experience sadness, anger, and disappointment. However, they can learn to deal with these feelings at an earlier age and will be better equipped to handle problems even as they get older in adult life.
YOU CANNOT PREVENT YOUR CHILD FROM HAVING PROBLEMS OR MAKING MISTAKES
No parent has superpowers to prevent their children’s lives from not having problems. In one way or another they will appear and it is necessary that from a very early age they have coping strategies . Otherwise, in case the parents are helicopter parents who only solve the problems for their children, decide for them and do not want them to suffer any type of damage, no matter how slight, then, the little ones will not be able to learn that they really can. have enough capacity to solve the problems of any mole.
When children are young, in safe environments such as parks or at home, opportunities can be sought for the child to learn to take care of himself. Be his guide, his teacher but don’t ‘take all the chestnuts out of the fire’, he must learn to do it himself.